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Originally posted by Hinna:
It's true. We say that looks don't matter or that we really don't pay attention to them when in fact we do!!!
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Well said Hinna. Good for you for cutting through all the BS surrounding this subject. But looks are only part of the equation in the long term. Personality, kindness (yes ppl, it is me, no need to check your monitor), loyalty - there are so many other qualities which also count don't you think?
Extreme
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Yep,but to think otherwise (that is like Hinna )is like putting all your eggs in one basket.Which may be o.k. & and if you are lucky ,you can beat the odds (risk) come out unscathed.But purely on basis of risk reward equation ,you are risking too much if you are going by “look” ONLY.
Try to lower your standards from hunks poster happen to be prevailing at your age of marriage
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Woh afsaana jise anjaam tak, laana na ho mumkin
Use ek KHoobsoorat moR dekar, chhoRna achha
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Mystical...err who said that????
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Hinna, the Prophet(peace and blessings on him) had said it....
A woman is married for four reasons, for her religion, her property, her status, her beauty, so you should choose one with religion. May your hands cleave to dust.
All is the Beloved and the lover is a veil
The Beloved is alive and the lover is dead (RUMI)
Good point.
Someone said that looks will help in longer run ..
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, thats not the case. With age, blood goes away from face (it does not remain as fresh while in youth), it makes lots of changes to your face (probably thats why women try to ‘blush’ their cheek/face, put on “make-up”).
Beauty is not forever, while character is forever.
We oughta be Changez like, don’t we?
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Originally posted by MyStiCaL_MisS:
**yup, and you are allowed to marry a woman beacuse of her beauty.
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The hadith states to marry one for religion NOT FOR BEAUTY. You misinterpreted the hadith.
Err I'm not saying that I'm the one staring into a guy's face and judging him on his looks. So don't think that I'm that type of person. I would look for a good personality as well as other qualities. I just stated that a lot of us say we don't look at looks but in actuality it does come into mind. It may not be the first thing..but itz there.
*"Labaik, Allahumma Labaik, Labaik La Sharika Laka Labaik, Innal Hamda Wa N'amata Laka Wal Mulk, La Sharika Lak." "Here I am at your service, O Allah, here I am. Here I am at your service and no partners do you have. Verily All Praise and All Bounty belong to you, and Yours alone is The Sovereignty. No partners do you have."
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[This message has been edited by Hinna (edited July 24, 2001).]
Pysical and mental both are important.
I didn't care. I agree to what my mom said. Showed me a passport size picture. I asked her if she was o.k with her then I was.
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Originally posted by Farhina:
*Pysical and mental both are important. *
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I agree ... both are important. Both parties need to be simulated physically and mentally. Otherwise a) you''ll get bored senseless and b) the world population will stop increasing !