Physical abuse possible?

Faexa_Khan · November 15, 2012, 12:56pm

Re: Physical abuse possible?

I dont know if its just the things I’ve been reading on the internet and everywhere or its real. He is very controlling and demanding, and his 180 degree turns in moods, at one time he’s very nice and sweet, and then suddenly he’s all angry, and then suddenly he’s quiet and cold and avoiding me.
I’ve already been engaged about 8 months, and we’re not getting married until next year winters. Although initially I was happy, but now I feel that this relationship is draining all energy from me already, I dont know how will I manage after getting married. Im fed up of this relationship, and Im fed up of my life!
I read Rockon’s thread and so many things are similar to what she has experienced, and Im afraid I might be going through the same after marriage. After all I cant really know him so well until Im married and live with him. But still I can relate to so many things.
Even at times when I feel so fed up of everything the only thing holding me back is I’ve been in this for 8 months and well, I love him, or Im just attached to him and the idea of giving up kills me. But I dont know if this is good for me or not. My parents are very conservative and I know its not going to be easy for me to be getting out of this mess, but even I cant make up my mind. I wish I would just die so I have no decisions to make and I can get out of all this quietly.
Im not the liberal, independent sort of girl, I do believe I have to compromise, but how much should I compromise is where I am confused? Should I put up with everything and carry on and hope I will have the strength to manage everything? I…dont know.
Im miserable right now I should try to come back and post something when I feel more sane

Yes istikhara option is the best one… n may be he is in some kind of stress dats y he is behavin like that.. tell him what ever u feel.. conversation solves many problms in this type of relations.. dont wish for ur death its haram.. May Allah help u my sis.. u can contct me anytym u need sumone to share…