Re: Photographer Costs - who pays?
Fiance is fairly rational about money and I know that my inlaws aren’t malicious or crazy stingy but because of that misunderstanding about what my MIL considers ‘acceptable’ for a walima outfit, my parents are kinda turned off to the whole thing and just do their own thing without talking $$ with my in laws. But the photography thing is complicating it because that needs to be split. My mom said that for her, the barat/mehndi photography was done by the girl’s side but the walima one was by the guy’s side. That would make sense in PAKISTAN when everything was split so that the girl’s side handled ALL the barat and mehndi expenses ; guys handled all the walima ones.
Since the wedding/mehndi photographer is split for us, I figured that the walima one would be the same but my mom disagreed. Part of me thinks she’s kinda creating a fuss because she’s still kind of embarassed/upset about the jora situation. So wanted to see if I was crazy or what the heck was going on.