i gave you the permission to do this or that.
i gave you the right to do this or that.
i am your care taker, so you do what you are told, that is the only right thing for you.
i provide you, so you will listen to me and do as i say.
only, i can let you do what i see is right for you to do, and nothing else should you event think of doing. & so on and so forth.
words, thoughts and actions - behaviors of people who feel that they have enslaved their significant other, is a tell tale sign of child hood trauma and self agg*****zement. people who indicate their power and control by words and feel that they can mock and harass the person, in their ‘custody’, are in fact undiagnosed patients of psychiatric medical care and they must be take care of medically, for reinstating their health.
research studies indicate that in relationships, when people begin to remind each other or one person does this to the other, it is actually a symbol of the telling person’s dependence and helplessness, a dire need for control and gaining power over someone whom this person consider weak than ownself.
when you come across such a person, you should observe the behaviors and with great care, if need be, get out of the situation, when this person least expects you to be alert and mindful for your own safety’s sake.
besides losing love and care for such a person, the suffering spouse or significant other will also feel anger and self -pity. and when child/ren, the situation will be even more tight for the caring and righteous spouse. so, finding social support and emotional empowerment is very essential for people in such a situation.
pettiness in words, thoughts and actions is a shameful thing to have, against one’s significant other/ spouse. whoever sees behaviors indicative of this, should express to the wrongful person, that this is not going to be tolerated.
share ways of dealing and thoughts on the issue?