Re: Perspectives…and blessings taken for granted
Firstly let me make it clear that I’m fully aware of the “rules” regarding polygamy in Islam. That being said…
No, it’s not a “blessing” for me to have a husband who doesn’t marry another woman. Faithfuless is a requirement for me. Not a bonus. My husband doesn’t “subject” me to anything. If and when he chooses to do something, I also have the choice of whether or not I want to deal with it. I’m not a prisoner. It irks me when women make a choice to stay in a marraige…and then somehow place a blame on the husband for “subjecting” them for whatever makes them unhappy.
Men are visual creatures and will always feel some sort of attraction to women who are not their wives. My fiance checks out other hot women in front of me and will even tell me when he thinks someone is hot. Heck I point out hot women to him when I see one. This does not bother me at all. He can look all he wants. It’s not like I don’t notice other good looking men.
However, if one day my husband feels he needs to have sex with another woman…then our marriage will end. I don’t care whether the “other woman” he’s sharing a bed with is his other “wife” or “mistress” or even a prostitute. I am not ok with my husband having sex with another woman…period. If I’m not fulfilling all his needs…then I consider it a blessing that he tell me so that I can move on with my life and find someone who will be satisfied with me…and ONLY me.