What makes an attractive personality ? People in genreal do things out of good will/sympathy but how does we really win people over so they want our company ? Form lasting friendships and relationships and in genreal find ourselves attracting people
- Friendly
- Smiling
- Showing concern
- Offer help
We all need good people in our lives. Just show your worth and you’ll be the one
You pose an interesting question, Life01. Charismatic people tend to display certain traits such as positive/open body language and communication (smiling, greeting, asking about well-being/interests, being attentive, optimism). They show kindness but also know their personal limits and how to bow out gracefully so that they’re not taken advantage of; they’re not afraid to say, “No.” They know what they stand for and are respectfully assertive; their strong confidence is tempered by humility to an extent. The are secure within themselves and are not consumed by the need for people’s approval (at least the don’t show it). They have an easy manner about them (not uptight, worriers etc). They don’t go overboard or try-too-hard. The list can go on and on.
I wouldn’t want to win everyone over though. It’s an exhausting ambition to chase after. You will encounter people in various spheres of life whose company can be harmful and who are best kept at a civil distance. Winning certain people over can mean inviting more trouble in your life, even more so if you compromised your values to gain their approval. You could win someone’s favor for a season or few and then one day find that they’ve demoted you to stranger-status without any apparent rhyme or reason. Warmth and kindness tend to beget in kind, but are not always met with appreciation or reciprocation. Tis’ a fact of life that you can’t please everyone all the time. I think life is simpler just being who you are and striving to be a good (not popular) person. In this regard, I feel less is more. Less people, less drama.
I think it all starts with knowing who you are, I mean your own likes and dislikes play an important role in whom we want to associate with!
but in general if we develop some of these traits “someone wrote” listed below they will help to a certain extent:
What attracts people!
1)If you’re looking to attract others, it’s really your ability to listen that makes you particularly appealing and alluring. When you’re fully listening to another person, you’re showing him or her that what he or she’s expressing is meaningful, significant, and important to you. By deeply engaging in what he or she’s communicating to you, you’re also building trust, rapport, and a deeper and closer connection between you both.
2)When it comes to engaging in behaviors that can attract others the most, one of the most crucial is acting in a kind, giving, and considerate way. In fact, not only does being kindhearted, caring, and genuinely concerned about the well-being of others immediately draw people toward you, but research has shown that men and women actively prefer to be around others who engage in altruistic behaviors and find them more appealing and desirable.
3)Research has shown that the very act of seeing a smiling face can help to stimulate the part of the brain associated with reward, so in essence, people can actually feel a strong sense of pleasure and satisfaction when they’re around a person who’s smiling.
4)They say that laughter is the best medicine, but it’s also one of the best ways to attract others and draw people toward you.With this in mind, it’s no wonder that people are instantly drawn to those who like to laugh and can make them laugh. Laughter has the power to provide them with an instant feel-good sensation throughout their entire body.
5)If you’re looking to truly attract others, being trustworthy can make you incredibly likable and desirable. After all, when you act in a dishonest or deceitful way, you’re undermining any chance of creating strong connections and relationships with other individuals because you simply can’t be trusted.
6)Acting in a confident way is an extremely important behavior in both your personal and professional life, and it plays a major role in attracting others toward you.
Success makes even the most boring person look charismatic.
Success also gives you confidence.
I have also seen people become more jealous and hateful toward a successful person, or they wanna buddy up with you in the hopes it may benefit them in some way, so it may not be the most sincere or genuine dynamics. I’ve both seen and personally experienced this to an extent. That’s why I feel that getting everyone to like you at all times is a tiresome endeavor.
Plus, being successful entails having certain personality traits as well…(apart from being driven and hardworking), some of which have been mentioned above.
You can’t change your personality. It’s something you are born with and is mainly genetic
Shareefbacha95 that theory has an obvious flaw! because if what you said was true then all children in one Family(similar Genes) would have the same personalities! and we all know that never happens, are’nt your siblings different from you?
You are talking about nature not personality. Personality can be developed, groomed etc