I really respect the people who are 40 and young at heart, have a sense of fun and live their lives as they come. I am nearing 23, feel 100, and am such a miser that is beggars belief. I don’t know how my sense of fun went but by god has it dissipated or has it dissi…
Don’t want to do nothing no more, dinners are torture as i hook up with my friends at work and stare at the tiles on the floor, wrap and unwrap a chewing gum wrapper, frisk through the contents of bag as if each time i look through it i might find something i hadn’t noticed before and generally sit mum for a whole hour.
Why am i so bored by everything? Nothing excites me at all and it isn’t something that’s happened today…it’s been a looooooooong while. Silly question but does our personality change as we grow? I’m still immature in a lot of ways but there’s a whole load of laughter that i’ve lost and can’t pinpoint how and why ( and it’s not as if i can flick a switch and make myself boisterous again).
Sighs, maybe i need a candle lit dinner with one of my slaggis to reinvigourate the kuri in me.
Disco, I think you have a lot going on in your life right now. Our twenties are times of serious confusion, and trying to get settled in one direction in terms of career, family life, etc. It sounds to me you just have a lot of things in your plate and perhaps are having a little difficulty dealing with it, and thus the onset of temporary depression that we all face at times.
I think it would be good if you perhaps read about this phase of life and perhaps discuss it with someone, the issues you are facing. Someone you trust and can look to for advice. hugz
One thing you will notice, the people in their 40's went through something similar, and now that they have a sense of direction and are more settled, they are enjoying life. But then not everyone enjoy's life, and that is a different topic altogether.
I feel you, dawg. (tm Randy) Wow I'm turning into a real cheeseball.
Seriously though, I know what you're talking about. I think you just need a vacation, or to do something totally spontaneous, like, fly to whateveryoureinthemoodfor for lunch/dinner, spend a month's pay on shoes or cake or something equally stupid (if I may - it was my idea after all), go to a theme park somewhere get on a kiddie coaster and scream as if you were nearing a torturous death by hungry cockroaches, go to the airport for breakfast before work, watch an old movie playing somewhere, have a water gun fight, call up an old friend from when you were 12 or smth out for lunch to find out what they've been up to. Your friends are probably feeling the same way, sticking to a routine day in and day out can be very boring - it may be why they're acting so blah-ish (they must be if wrappers and your not-so-magical purse do a better job entertaining you).
... and yeah, our personality does change as we grow. And sadly, not always for the better.
DD, consider yourself lucky that you can change personalities…Someone once said that consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative, so having a maleable personality is sign of an active imagination…
And to me, people who remain constant in demeanour are boring…They remain the way they always were, never changing, always predictable…Also, a changing personality is one which speaks of someone who is adapting for the better…
Hazrat Ali :kaw: once said, "When you change, do not be concerned with what you used to be…"So forget what or how you were and welcome your new found personality with open arms…Remember, it is only humans which have the capacity to change, animals remain the same forever…
It’s better to be honestly demure than to fake boisterousness…
Even Prophets changed…Musa :as: changed from a prince to a Prophet, Ayub :as: changed from prosperity to a pariah and many other examples…
So adapt to your new found personality and be proud…Not many people can change or afford to change themselves…
im 19…and i get excited by every lil thing…kuhien jana ho ya…koi mujh se baat kur raha ho…im always bubbli and smiling…i guess i look at everything positively…i have my degree to be looking forward to…living independently…and matauring up on my own is OK!..then i have my job in London to be looking forward too etc etc…
i think DD when im 23 i’ll probably feel the same way…
DD I dont think there is anything wrong with this. Basically becuz I started being like this a couple years ago too(I am almost 24!)
So, it must be some form of maturity but I am content with staying at home, day after day. It doesnt bother me at all anymore since most of my friends left anyways SO i dont have anyone to go out with
Ira awww..yaar i don't know. Har cheez bore lagti hea ab..you know the kisi cheez me dil nahin lagta type feelings. The same day in day out is annoying.
XTC, lol, arrrrite since you suggested it sweetie ;)
Munnowa, bless ya. If i'm over in NJ (?) i'll pop over and we can have a misers meet yea?
take a break, go on vacation with friends. or atleast have one day in a week to pamper ur self with anything u want.
i thought growing up with answer lot of my questions, but instead i have more questions now than i had before. life just keeps getting complicated day by day.
hate to admit but same story hea sista!
SO i dont have anyone to go out with