I’ve been quite surprised by the amount of questions and help wanted on very personal problems regarding relationships with spouse, families, in-laws etc.
Though the person asking for help is anonymous and will not feel any embarrassment by their questions.
I just read one about a guy complaining about his wife which confused me, (behaviour of the wife thread), made me want to shout at the guy who wrote it like “talk to your wife! Stupid!”
But shouldn’t any problem be tackled personally? What ever happened to simply talking through problems? Why would somebody want a stranger to help?
I've been quite surprised by the amount of questions and help wanted on very personal problems regarding relationships with spouse, families, in-laws etc.
Though the person asking for help is anonymous and will not feel any embarrassment by their questions.
I just read one about a guy complaining about his wife which confused me, (behaviour of the wife thread), made me want to shout at the guy who wrote it like "talk to your wife! Stupid!"
But shouldn't any problem be tackled personally? What ever happened to simply talking through problems? Why would somebody want a stranger to help?
Surely I'm not the only one thinking this?
No way...Life is my fav section! Lol.
On a serious note...sometimes it's helpful to ask a stranger (e.g. in these forums) because they are able to see things from another person's perspective.
I used to think that ppl sharing personal probs on here are crazy when I first started silently browsing here a few years back (when I ran out of wedding dresses to stare at in the wedding section). However, after reading the responses once does realize that often the strangers will see through the poster's biases, point them out, and hopefully lead the poster to assess the situation in a more calm and balanced manner than before.
Now I post some issues at times when I realize that my view of the situation is too biased to be 100% true and its possible someone on this forum has been in the opposite situation that I am judging so they could inform me from first-hand experience what I'm missing.
I've been quite surprised by the amount of questions and help wanted on very personal problems regarding relationships with spouse, families, in-laws etc.
Though the person asking for help is anonymous and will not feel any embarrassment by their questions.
I just read one about a guy complaining about his wife which confused me, (behaviour of the wife thread), made me want to shout at the guy who wrote it like "talk to your wife! Stupid!"
But shouldn't any problem be tackled personally? What ever happened to simply talking through problems? Why would somebody want a stranger to help?
Surely I'm not the only one thinking this?
i also feels same way
most of threads are not help but for venting frustration
I completely agree with you. I think the unfolding of dirty laundry is generally not a good trait and shows that a couple does not have the understanding they require in a marriage. If one seeks validation of an idea or a thought on the internet which they seek to discuss with their spouse at one stage, one is gonna get shot in the foot. Individuals on line base their post based on preconceived notions based on their own personal family backgrounds and history of relationships. They also base their comments on only the information provided and that provides a very limited view point. So in general you aren't going to get very helpful advice on the internet because information provided is one sided, limited and the respondents are basing their views on personal life experiences and not empirically or logically.
^It's kinda insensitive to label ppl talking about genuine personal problems as 'airing dirty laundry'..
Yes, we do tend to get only one side of the story here but isn't that often the case in normal everyday life as well? Not sure how getting as wide a range of view points (with MORE possibilty of neutral/unbiased views as more ppl are considering the situation) is worse than asking one or two ppl in real-life (and who may or not be biased if they're involved in that situation anyway)..
Some of the girls and guys posting here might be newly married and/or inexperienced, shy or not have anyone they can talk to in confidence and no, they obviously DON'T always get shot in the foot asking 'stangers' for advice.. How do you know ppls answers here aren't logical.. because you say so??
*Not sure why open discussion is seen as a negative by some posters here.. Yes, some threads are a windup but it's pretty disturbing to see some ppl trying to discourage others from posting about GENUINE problems..
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