Perfect love story - No more!

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A girl and a boy met eachother and started to talk on phone and meet up etc. they are both in their mid 20s.

they get to know eachother and love eachother so much, they decide to get married in couple of years after they both become stable financially etc.

in the mean time they share good times going places, being so happy in love etc. She trusted him with her life, he is a genuine, loyal and loving guy.

however like with most relationships this one also had some bad moments. But not so bad that they should end the love. they always made up.

One day out of no where the guy dumps her saying things like get a life, i dont want u, leave me alone etc.

he tells her not to contact him anymore. she pleaded for a while trying to save her love and relationship…and izzat. both there families knew about one another.

after pleading she gave up. firstly because of self respect - how much can one beg without looking desperate?

they both went there seperate ways.

ONE YEAR on…she still looks down at her phone to see why he didnt contact her yet. she is left confused and shattered.

she needs answers, why he left like that? The family doesnt contact eachother - never did anyway. but they both stayed in touch with each others siblings, since the break up though.

What do u think the possible reasons could be? (apart from cheating, because there was no room in there relationship for a third person).

thanks for reading.

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so so common. Happens all the time. Some guys although they say they are serious, they are not. They realize they are with the wrong person. Some even do it for fun. Thora ghoomo phiro.. mazay karo .. dump the girl. Happens all the time. Girls should be smart. Don't get involved with guys like that. If the girl really loved him and knew she wants to get married to him, first thing she should've done is to get the families involved completely. Then the guy does has someone to answer to.

Reasons could be, guy lost interest in the girl, found someone else, was just having fun... wasn't seroius from day one. You may think there isn't room for a third person, the guy might not be thinking that way.

I suggest the girl should forget and move on. Find someone better. There is no point of thinking or cying about someone who didn't care about her and her emotions. Again, I think girls should be smart. This I am saying from my own experience. We girls do get carried away sometimes and think he is the one, married life ho gi.. bachay hoon gay this that. When the guy says no or dump us .. we cry.

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Thanks for the advice spiral. and I totally agree with u and accept there are many ppl around who love to have 'fun' then ditch.

but this story is quite unique - they totally loved eachother. they were both crazy about one another. espcially if the siblings were involved and in touch - how can a man cheat? or dump that girl his brother and sister are chatting to aswell?

we sometimes think of the easy and most common causes...e.g. cheating. Wat about if its a terminal illness? or family politics? We dont think of those things. do u think it could be anything other than cheating?

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The guy has blood cancer and he doesn’t want to hurt his ‘‘one true love’’ with his death .

Yes glass is half full , only because men are awesomest by default :chai:

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for God sake we r living in the 20th century man :smack: Love is a myth, forget abt it n move on. u’ll survive.

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Thanks for busting our bubble Seema :naraz:

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^ Believe m dude I saved u a lot of trbl na

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I need more convincing . Please share your personal painful tragic life story that put you off so much .

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naah I am samajhdaar n a bz person na so I learnt frm other's experiences

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Awww.. sometimes people outgrow each other. His way of exiting out of your life wasn't the best but maybe he simply wasn't meant for u. I hope u get over him and I hope U find someone better than him.

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Dude honestly I can't really tell you what to do. I don't think you should look for reasons though. Its not going to help you much. Plus what more reason do you want than that the fact that he doesn't want to be with you. So, just let things be and move on with your life.

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Just one thing. How can that girl be so sure there's no room for cheating, when she didn't even see this breakup coming?

I'm nto blaming her but rather that thought process.

If something like this can happen out of the blue, then other things do not become so far-fetched.

Sometimes truth is stranger than fiction.

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If she hasn't learned her lesson yet and still looks at the phone, then she is the one to blame.

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Human beings are not meant to be monogamous, especially men.

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*Yes we are. If the Muslims from before were able to then so can we. Men need to stop ogling women that are half naked all the time and it will be easier for them. *

I second Sara. Maybe he was cheating, it's not like YOU or HER would truely know. Maybe he wanted to see if he could make a girl fall in love with him then dump her. You never know, but the breakup isn't out of the blue. Something caused it.

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^Which Muslims from before? Muslims and Mormons are the biggest supporters of Polygamy.

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:omg:

:smilestar:
bollywood:emmy:

awww:lifey: i like uuuuuuuuuu too now:@:

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But not all Muslims like the concept of it. It's not a rule in our religion, it's a suggestion. Most guys can actually be monogomous if they *put forth more of an effort! *Not saying put an effort into the relationship, but put an effort into ignoring all those nekked girls with fake, silicon enhanced bodies.

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Hey PK2010

I understand that they both spent a lot of time together....but it's not like she was with him 24/7. Maybe he did find someone else. Maybe he felt stifled...or freaked out..and realized he wasn't ready for a commitment. Maybe his parents changed their mind about the girl and he didn't know how to explain this to her....so he just decided to end it. Or he plain lost interest.

People can give you a variety of reasons but you'll never know which one it is right? Your guess is as good as ours.

One year later, and she's still waiting for him. During this year, has he made the effort to contact her again? If not...then he has moved on...and it's better if she moves on as well.

Sometimes you can't get closure from the person you hurt you, so you have to provide it for yourself. As nice as he may seem....ending things abruptly (and so rudely) without explanation is not mature. And it's hard to have a relationship with someone who can't communicate maturely. It would have been worse if he ended a marriage without explanation. It's easier said than done....but she should try to move forward with her life.

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men r pigs. period. :)