In the engagement stage your in a dreamland…you are forming expectations that may be in a sense unrealistic…
so first questions is: how do you stay level headed and stop daydreaming about how wonderful your life is gonna be and all the things your gonna do together etc…cause in reality…there will be issues and arguments…and some ppl can’t comprehend that…and that’s not a good thing…cause when time comes your gonna be totally deflated!
second: how do you keep the sweet romantic spark that the two of you currently do have in the engagment period…we can understand that it won’t be the same…but the lovey dovey romantic stuff should still go on…and not be forgotton about…just cause you now got your girl!
third: please define what perfect couple means to you.
In the engagement stage your in a dreamland...you are forming expectations that may be in a sense unrealistic...
so first questions is: how do you stay level headed and stop daydreaming about how wonderful your life is gonna be and all the things your gonna do together etc....cause in reality...there will be issues and arguments...and some ppl can't comprehend that...and that's not a good thing...cause when time comes your gonna be totally deflated!
second: how do you keep the sweet romantic spark that the two of you currently do have in the engagment period....we can understand that it won't be the same...but the lovey dovey romantic stuff should still go on...and not be forgotton about...just cause you now got your girl!
third: please define what perfect couple means to you.
engagement period make you feel live in la la land.
you both talk with each other and make plans, but in reality those plans just chaskay bazi.
on the other hand, marriage is reality where you do have fun, sorrow, weeps, happiness, laugh, argument, fight and romance.
long engagements are a no-no, you have all this time to sit there and plan out your dream life, and ofcourse your finace says "jee darling, jo ap kaho" and promises things that can't be fullfilled. This is also why a lot of elder people say you shouldn't communicate too with finace (aside from islamic reasons)
marriage is the real deal
don't keep the engagement long ...at times you get deflated with all the pre-marriage plans and the good things that the future holds not comes true.
at other times you end up quarreling so much that you just call the whole thing off.
a perfect couple would be the one who adapts and moulds with each other along with the ever changing circumstances and esp yes never complain ..'pehle to tum aise thay ab aise ho gaye ho' :)