People who force groceries on you while you have enough money to buy them

[arabiannights]

Re: People who force groceries on you while you have enough money to buy them

@Sahdia77

4. I wanted to add, that I wanted them to have it all back, which would have been inpolite, like throwing it back in their face, hence the amount of money, giving them one dish would not have covered it. Giving them a small amount of money and pleading them to please accept it while thanking them would have been enough. I don’t like receiving something from people I don’t know and who have treated my daughter unfriendly at their home while their own child had invited my daughter herself in their home. This feeling increased after they completely ignored me after imposing their groceries on me, when I was at school and smiled towards them and advanced to greet them and thank them they ignored me.

Just because someone insists on giving you something does not mean you have to accept it. Sometimes it’s inpolite to impose something on others, sometimes it’s inpolite to accept it or at least inappropriate, sometimes it’s inpolite to not accept it. Every situation is different.

Maybe they didn’t see you or felt embarrassed recieving thanks. When i help others in a simple way i tend to dislike being thanked alot because sometimes i feel guilty that i should of done a greater gesture of kindness then i had done. How did they ignore your daughter? is it a regular thing they ignored her or a one off occassion?

In terms of ettiquitte you should accept it whether you like what they have given you or not; just imagine someone returning a gift you had given and how insulting that would be. If its causing you that much trouble just give it to a homeless shelter. To me it seems that they have hurt your pride as being a provider and career of your daughter but in reality i doubt anyone would go that much out of their way to insult you. Take it as a good gesture and forget about it.