People who force groceries on you while you have enough money to buy them

[Sahdia77]

Re: People who force groceries on you while you have enough money to buy them

@gudiaali

Some points from my side

1. Kindness is not only restricted for people who are needy. it can be rather should be extended towards all regardless they are needy or not. that family that send over some groceries to you might have done that out of kindness.
2. if someone is being so kind and nice without being so close to you, i would regard them as gems and while i would certainly acknowledge and appreciate their effort, i would never dare to return them in cash.
3. if i would be in there place i would totally be offended if someone for whom i was so considerate about would weigh my kind gesture in terms of money and would return me the favor by giving me cash against it.
4. instead of returning them the money, there are other polite ways to return the favor. like you could have send them a nice home cooked meal or some goodies to your daughter’s friend without really making it look like you are doing that in order to return.
5. it doesn’t imply that people who are kind towards other people who are not really needy, are not doing any good work for the people who are needy and deserve their favors. they might be helping around the needy as well, so go easy.

1. which is why I quietly accepted the groceries and which is why I was grateful which is why I even said thank you very much
2. well, I would treat the person who I gave something to politely, you see, I saw the family at school of this friend of my daughter, I smiled and wanted to greet and thank, yet they ignored me, the friend did greet me, but her family ignored me, my daughter wasn’t treated very kindly either when her friend took her home once . . . is this arrogance the way to treat someone who never harmed you and doesn’t even know you, you know, I have given lots of money to others while I am not rich and needed that money myself too for my own children, but after giving that money I still greeted those people instead of inpolitely ignoring them and being arrogant towards them . . . both the giver and receiver should be polite and kind towards each other, giving something is not a free ticket to be arrogant, when I gave people I knew and people I did not know lots of money when they had nothing, I treated them with respect while giving it and after giving it, I don’t understand why the family of that friend was inpolite and unfriendly towards my daughter when her friend took her home, and I don’t understand why the family of that friend ignored me completely at school when I smiled and advanced to greet and thank them but also explain that the taqleef in this case wasn’t necessary, I feel strange to receive something intented for people who have nothing while I do have something
3. how kind of them, not to be friendly or polite even towards my daughter when she visited them, how kind of them to ignore my smile and me completely when we ran into each other at school, just days after their child wanted to give us groceries, why should I accept something I don’t even need from people who treat my daughter unfriendly and inpolite when she is at their home invited by their own child and who treat me unfriendly and inpolite when they see me?
4. perhaps
5. most fellow Pakistani’s I know and have known all my life, including some of my own family members, do nothing for needy people in the Netherlands, all money goes only to Pakistan, that makes me sad, because we live in the Netherlands, some part of our money should also help the needy people here, I think if we have money to help others, we should give a part to Pakistan and a part to the Netherlands, Holland is our country too after all, many Pakistanis here don’t give to charities for cancer, for the environment, for hungry people, etc. (I collected for some of these once and I still collect for Amnesty International) our family friends and family members always talked about how all our money should only go to Pakistan and they often refused to help the needy people here, aren’t we all human beings? aren’t we supposed to help people everywhere we can and not just our own? Just my humble opinion.