Re: People who force groceries on you while you have enough money to buy them
^That. Agree with Muzna. I have been wondering the same question from Op’s first post. I’m wondering if maybe your daughter didn’t let it slip at one point that you both were short on money or groceries? Or perhaps someone else told this family? Otherwise why is your daughter continuously insisting and insisting that you guys don’t need groceries? If your daughter did indeed say something, she may have simply said, “Don’t have anything to eat at home. Hopefully mom will get the groceries today.” It could have been a simple sentence that may have been misunderstood to be a major problem by the friend. Whomever (be it your daughter or someone else) said anything to this family about you…is likely not to admit it. Your mission is not find out how this things got started, you’ll only end up frustrated. You cannot control others, only yourself and your own family. That said, just gently tell your daughter to avoid making any comments regarding being late on groceries and food and money. Tell her you’re not accusing her, just asking that she not do it.
Sahdia, if you have received groceries from this girl that you absolutely do not need, then what you can do is to give those items to people that you know that would need them. That way both this girl’s family and you (inshaAllah) will receive sawab for helping someone in need.
As GudiaAli suggested above, cook or bake something nice as a gift and go visit this girl’s family. And very sweetly tell them how much you appreciate their kindness, but that if they have any misunderstandings that you are struggling or in need, that’s not true and that you’re managing well. Explain it very gently to them. That way her family will know and can give their help to people who need it more. Also, stop getting angry. Your daughter’s friend is a kid or a teen…and they don’t always know the best way to word things or respond to people; the same mistake can happen by your own daughter. So, rather than make it a pride issue, let it go, and do something productive with it: 1) pass on unnecessary items to those that need it…2) do something nice for this family. Go meet them; you may be glad that you did…perhaps they’ll make good friends.