Does anyone personally know of cases where grown ups have drastically changed their lives/behavior, for better or for worse, based on a conscious decision to do so?
We are not talking about young people who have suddenly discovered the world from outside their parents’ point of view, but adults who have been living their life for years, and then for whatever reason decided that that wasn’t working and gone through an overhaul/introspection, made the drastic change, and had the change last? Please tell me about such people if you know of any.
I know of someone who despite his age was a tad bit immature, still hanging out late nights with friends ALL the time. Out partying/drinking etc....not much focus on career/family etc....most of his friends were dropping him 1 by 1 as they were getting busy in their careers/marraige/family....etc...
I guess it hit him that why is he wasting his life away. It wasn't overnight but he went back to school, got his degree and in the meantime worked full time. It wasn't job in his career....BUT he was occupied with work/study he didnt have time for the nonsense anymore. I guess he realized what he needs to do with his life, this crazy bad boy lifestyle was not gonna work too long, esp as he had 3 younger sisters for which rishthay were needed as well. (I know for a fact some people stayed away from girls just becuz of reputation of their brother). Anyways with the shift to focus on career/family his mindset also changed and in the process he met some really nice folks and I think they influenced him to do well etc. Mashallah now he is married....good job, good family...kids....deen in his life & doing very well. Also was able to mend relationship with his family (parents) that was broken due to some of his habits.....
My friend from high school and her hubby lived in CA for the last 12 years.
I recently found out that they sold their house and bought a farm in Michigan. She traded her BMW for a bunch of farm animals. (Her horses are beautiful). She was a horse person in High School too.
I guess she had a 7 and 10 year old and she wanted them exposed to a simplier less materialistic life.
IF the change is being done for the sake of someone and is not based on your personal beliefs then it may or may not last.
If the change is being made because the person wants to improve their lifestyle...then depending on their determination and the support of loved ones...it can last.
Ive seen some people change for the worse as well...but that is usually a phase they go through as a result of some traumatic experience. Its a reaction to whatever they went through. Most of the time with the help of people around them...these people can pull out of their depression.