People that aren't invited to your wedding

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Re: People that aren’t invited to your wedding

@happilyeverafter

She just wants to come to your wedding so she can gossip about it later on. Please ignore her. Not worth wasting even a minute of you time. This is the time of your life, celebrate it with people who matter

Yeah, i probably won’t even realize she’s there tbh since I’m going to be busy at the wedding but my parents, who are my PARENTS and also paying for the event, are going to be unhappy if she’s there so I can’t justify it at all.

@SummerFruits

there isnt a problem at all lol. You just seem too nice and therefore arent able to ignore people like that. But ignore/dont invite her if you dont talk/have history etc etc. At the end of the day, it your wedding so invite who you want. Dont let her rain on your parade.

She obviously wants to be invited to your wedding otherwise she wouldnt contact you after ages. But in all honesty, sometimes you have to stand up for yourself instead of trying to be a people pleaser and being too nice. (learnt from experience lol).

Hope you enjoy your day anyway iA!

lol you’re right.

@redvelvet

Op, there are people who have troublesome relatives (the kind that are nosy, that gossip, that meddle and stir the pot) and they can’t get out of inviting them because of formality. Now, that right there is greater cause for worry. But this girl and her family are neither close relatives nor close friends. Your parents are adamant that she not attend the wedding and you don’t want her to either. From how you’ve described your relationship with her, it doesn’t seem like she had done you any favors in the past to where you would now feel obligated to invite her. For instance, if she had often invited you to events in the past then I can understand your guilt in not returning the courtesy this time. But you said that you two weren’t even close.

I think that maybe what bothers you is the knowledge that she and her mom are going around enquiring about you and I can understand the irritation at their “surprise” that you managed to get a good catch, MashaAllah. I’d be annoyed as well. But you can’t control what they do. You cannot stop them from talking to people much less from talking about you. Feel flattered that they think you’re worth puzzling their minds over; that they have given you so much significance. Thank Allah for His blessings, recite your protective adhkar and make dua to Allah that he protect from you people’s nazar and all harm, and live your life happily.

thanks redvelvet. Yeah, that’s what annoys me. That and the fact that after I’ve confronted her about telling her mom random stuff that was told to her in private (this is before I knew what was really going on), she told me that she didn’t think it was right for me to cut her off because she can maintain her friendship with me and not have it effect her mom and my aunt’s relationships. That WOULD be true if she didn’t go and blab everything to her mother. My aunt is HELLBENT right now on ruining this rishta and that’s adding to the stress/anxiety and this girl just brings up all that in me so just hearing her voicemail made me annoyed.

AND the fact that if I went crazy and invited her anyways now, I KNOW for a fact that she’s too cheap to buy the plane ticket to attend. She’d cancel last minute. so she literally just wants the invitation to have it.

@BellaShabba

Ignore her. If she bumps into you just make it clear youve been so busy and dont be shy if she asks about wedding plans just say fine thanks super busy. Youre not obliged to call her so dont worry! She clearly got in touch to get an invite

That’s a good plan. I won’t really run into her since we don’t live in the same place and she’d be FLYING back to come to the wedding but it’ll mean avoiding her fb messages/instagram (already blocked her) and voicemail/texts. I’ve been doing that but a mutual friend is getting involved now and saying I at least should call her back.