Re: People pleaser/can’t say no
Yeah but what if they keep pestering you and making you feel guilty like “c’mon please, you know I wouldnt ask you if I absolutely didnt need it, be a friend!” and then they stare at you with these big pleading eyes and I feel like the bad one then if I say no.
You know this same friend I mentioned in my post, we were working together last year, and on the last iftari she didnt show up at work, and I ended up having to stay the whole day when she very well knew my family was having a big party that day. I missed it, and she never even said sorry. I later found out that her excuse of a toothache was a lie and she was just busy chilling with her boyfriend. I continued to be friends with her regardless. After that, she asked to borrow one of my earrings, I didnt exactly say no, but I made an excuse of not being able to find them that very moment adn she stopped talking to me for six months. No calls, nothing. She finally called me back one day, and after that we were friends again, but when I think of it, she only became friends with me again so I could babysit her son while she was working all day 
Even afterrrrrr all that, I dont know why I didnt drop her. She’s spanish by the way, and alls he ever really did was tell me to leave my family, that they’re being too overbearing, but on the same token, she’s a single parent of a son still lviing with her parents and her mom used to come and curse her out at our workplace sometimes but my sharaafat never allowed me to say anything to her, and she continued talking smack about my family, which I just found out after our big fight. Now if I had had the freakin guts to say anything, she wouldnt have gone that far. :hinna: