Re: People badmouthing...what should be the response??
Actually elders have tolerated her behaviour many times..without saying a word to her face...and I never stepped in due to my elders being incharge of the matters..
My mom is a heart patient.....and her blood pressure shot up after the event...i had to give her extra pills to calm her nerves...
but it has not stopped....it has happened before and i don't want her to do it again.....thats all
thanks for your advice anyways..i will keep it in mind
if thats the case then i'll say two things
a) confront her by yourself without telling your mom b) dont ask your mom to confront her keep her away from this stress but discuss as she may have a better solution and then confront her on your own.
i really think that someone needs to tell this lady about her behaviour coz that way she may realise about this. i know you said that you cant kick her out. thats fine but you could say stuff like "dont you think if you use a polite tone things can be solved easily" "there was no need to be rude you could have told us politely"...this is just to see what her response is. good luck
Re: People badmouthing...what should be the response??
but this latest post of yours which is full of sarcastic-ridicule was totally uncalled for...... i never said what you suggested in previous posts was wrong.. i am open to views...i value responses given by everyone including yours.....but this absurd off-topic post of yours was a disappointment nevertheless..why would you put such an effort on writing 11 points such as these??
I layed out all the relevant information in my posts.....
Nomi, first of all....I wasn't ridiculing you. That was never the intention. And secondly, the 11 points were listed as a joke....I know that you wouldn't follow them. They were meant to lighten up the mood. My apologies if you took offense.
If you had to give your mom extra pills....then this needs to be brought up with this female relative and her husband. If need be....tell em you'll sue if something like this happens again.
Re: People badmouthing...what should be the response??
Nomi, first of all....I wasn't ridiculing you. That was never the intention. And secondly, the 11 points were listed as a joke....I know that you wouldn't follow them. They were meant to lighten up the mood. My apologies if you took offense. If you had to give your mom extra pills....then this needs to be brought up with this female relative and her husband. If need be....tell em you'll sue if something like this happens again.
Re: People badmouthing...what should be the response??
Okay now this is something that happened in my family. Both the parties were my close relatives, So heres what you can do:
1- Confront her and make it clear for her that the way she talked to your mother was inappropriate and very hurtful and you are very angry about it!
2- Let her know how you feel upon the situation and then decide how both of you can come to a common consent . If she approves and promises to abide by the rules/decisions then its fine!
3- If she doesn't then take harsh measures e.g. for the lights issue, file an application for a separate electricity connection for them or you and just INFORM them! Don't ask, inform!
4- Tell her to take care of her own expenses, you can do this politely or in a harsh way just to make sure she understands!
Hope everything gets sorted out at your place!! =)
Re: People badmouthing...what should be the response??
so TLK someone insults your mom and you just have to 'talk about the tone' and 're-assure' ??
When I said you talk to her about her tone is I meant that you confront her about her tone. I by no way meant that you ignore the insults she threw at your mom. that