I can only talk of desis as I’m one and because we do mainly associate with other desis. But why is it that we succumb to peer pressure so easily…I know so many folks who buy huge properties, then all this furniture and stuff, send their kids to expensive private schools, etc…all because of the pressures of the social circle they are a part of. Is there really a need to destroy your sleep and peace of mind just to appear good in front of the same families you sit with every Friday night and have the same biryani even though we all know that a single income home cannot afford the luxuries we are bathing in? Is credit card debt not as haunting as your social circle’s pressure?
Where to live, what to buy/wear/drive, where to spend vacation, and where to send children for education..etc…all part of competing with others or showing off (neecha dikhaana).
I think usually the peer pressure is not such a problem for those who still can afford. Hence peer pressure is there but no financial issues for higher/equal class families.
Those, who make average living but mingle with above average income ‘peers’, (specially if both at some point were on equal level) may lose their sleep.
That's what I'm trying to say..if you can afford it well and good, but you see so many families living way beyond their means just in order to fit in to their social circle.
That's what I'm trying to say..if you can afford it well and good, but you see so many families living way beyond their means just in order to fit in to their social circle.
Well then they pay the 'price' for it (pun intended). .....by losing sleep, and more probems like acidity, heart problems etc. on top of getting financially burdened. :(
I've also noticed parents enrolling their kids in more and more extracurricular activities due to this peer pressure. They end up overwhelming their kids.
dont u think this social circle pressure is something we r too responsible for it… social circle pressure comes out of a society… society is formed by individuals, by “US”… so where this pressure is coming from… we r the ones who creates this pressure thingy …:hinna:…
exactly…we all are responsible for keeping these ‘expectations’ alive…and if we don’t take steps to correct this…we are the ones responsibles…its all so easy to blame the ‘society’ as if its some separate entity which is formed by Martians…
and then people go and preach and go about calling you ‘generalizing’ and ‘judging’ if you point out something like this…
Everything has its goods and bads. Why is so that every-time we talk about peer pressure, we always see the -ive aspect of it. Peer pressure sometimes works wonders.
