Is it normal for kids to “act out” if their routine changes? Like misbehave more and try to get away with things?
If it is, how do you address it? Handle it? Correct it?
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i think they do. i've witnessed it and oh boy! not fun!
how do you resolve it? good question. you have to teach your kids patience and flexibility... it doesn't seem easy. but i guess raising kids overall isn't easy to begin with.
offtopic a bit: i'm going to put my kid/s with my bff as much as possible haha she's mA THE most good-natured, model of cheerful behaviour and good deeds kind of person that i've ever had the good fortune of having in my life. i mean, seriously. people have met her for 10 minutes for the first time and have completely fallen for her personality. i can be very grumpy at times :p
i think they do. i've witnessed it and oh boy! not fun!
how do you resolve it? good question. you have to teach your kids patience and flexibility... it doesn't seem easy. but i guess raising kids overall isn't easy to begin with.
offtopic a bit: i'm going to put my kid/s with my bff as much as possible haha she's mA THE most good-natured, model of cheerful behaviour and good deeds kind of person that i've ever had the good fortune of having in my life. i mean, seriously. people have met her for 10 minutes for the first time and have completely fallen for her personality. i can be very grumpy at times :p
SGC...I joke about leaving my kids with my BFF for the first 5 years of their life and picking them up when she is done.
She is an amazing mother, wife, friend, etc. Her kids are angels Mashallah...she has it all figured out.
I guess I am wondering how to address a kid whose routine has been severely disrupted.
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^ What's caused the routine change? Is it something small like a change in school or addresss, or God forbid, much bigger like the death of a parent?
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the first thing is to get them back into a structured daily routine that will help settle some of the acting out
my son is at a stubborn stage right now, he already was slightly stubborn but routine had him calmed to a degree ( he will be two in 2 weeks)
since the birth of our daughter last month this has really put him off kilter, it's hard but we are trying to keep his day to day routine as much as possible and letting him know he is loved too.
^ What's caused the routine change? Is it something small like a change in school or addresss, or God forbid, much bigger like the death of a parent?
Its a cross country move that was made. Her home, friends, room, etc. everything is different now.
the first thing is to get them back into a structured daily routine that will help settle some of the acting out
my son is at a stubborn stage right now, he already was slightly stubborn but routine had him calmed to a degree ( he will be two in 2 weeks) since the birth of our daughter last month this has really put him off kilter, it's hard but we are trying to keep his day to day routine as much as possible and letting him know he is loved too.
I will definitely pass this on...I agree I think she needs to get back into a routine way of some sort.
Thank you!
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when kids dont have a proper routine, or something is out of sorts for a bit too long, they get messed up too.
Mine was a bit of terror when the inlaws were vistiing. It was more because we moved houses while they were here, they were staying a few days with us and then a few with my SIL.. so she'd get used to them and then they would leave.. come back.. leave.. it was just too much for her. I think it was less about the move and more about the people around her going in and out of her life... its hard for a kid i think to deal with that...
munchkin is not bad with staying at different places.. but i know a lot of kids find it a bit hard to adjust when they have to leave everything and move from one place to another. Try keeping something constant in their life... like lets say, if u always read before going to bed... keep doing that with other changes happening.. it may provide security that not everything is different
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Reha, a huge routine change like that will have its effects, give it time and let the kid settle down, it's a big change moving cross country. Kids are very sensitive to change but they do ultimately accept it.
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if you put familiar things in her room aswell, she will know some tings are constant, her toys, her bedding etc
it will help too.
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if she had a favourite place to visit in her old city like a park or the zoo, maybe take her to those same places in the new city so she doesn't feel like she's left all the good things behind?