How would u feel if…Ur married and someone from ur sasural or ur own immediate fAmily say that ur husband was meant to marry some other girl but then it never happened because of naseebhow wiould u feel if someone says that to you?
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It is big infarction on their part , make your husband stop them from saying such a horrible stuff. If he also takes part in this kind of conversation , stop making nice food for him feed him mong key patli daal with chapati for 40 days.
Also throw his pillo and comforter on the couch in the living room and lock your bedroom.
That will teach them. How they dare to bring that kind of horrible stuff into their conversation.
If all this does not work then let us know we will tell you some other steps you can take to straighten them out. 
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the best thing to do is to ignor esuch relatives n keep on smiling (no matter how much u boil inside) n say acha haan ji unhoon nay bataya tha mujhay but he also said that he got lucky n married me n aunty aj kal tu kaffi llogon ki engagment hoti hai laikin baad mai kisi na kisi wajja say khatam ho jati hai so its not a big deal
n ppl will stop saying such things aazmaish sharat hai :D
n if ur husband shows any interest in such topics n haan g n grins at auntys story then at nite just throw his pillow on the couch or floor n say go n dream of marrying falaan falaan ......
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How would u feel if....Ur married and someone from ur sasural or ur own immediate fAmily say that ur husband was meant to marry some other girl but then it never happened because of naseebhow wiould u feel if someone says that to you?
It probably stings when people/family tell you this but does it really matter? You are the one who ended up marrying him so obviously you were meant to marry him not some other girl. So just ignore it.
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It’s an insensitive comment but its not really a big deal!
Why don’t u tell 'em who u were meant to marry and make them sarrho with jealousy 
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How would u feel if....Ur married and someone from ur sasural or ur own immediate fAmily say that ur husband was meant to marry some other girl but then it never happened because of naseebhow wiould u feel if someone says that to you?
Been there.
You say..."abhi bhi kuch nahin bigra hai...Islam mein to chaar jayaz hein. Koshish kar ke dekh lein"
Smile and laugh it off.
He was not meant to marry her because Allah swt intended for him to marry you. Thats why it happened. Be confident knowing that whatever was intended for your husband obviously was not Allah swt plan...and His plan is the only one that matters.
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Solid advice from all.
Such people are being quite thoughtless when they mention such things. If I were in your place though, I would reply .." Allah swt ki marzi thi, baqi Allah us larki ko bhi apni shadi shuda zindagi mey itna khush rakhey jitney hum hen". I feel that would send a dual message. One, that they shouldn't question or remark upon what is Allah's plan, and secondly that you and your husband are happy together so much so that you can wish well for everyone else to be the same.
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the girl my husband was about to marry lives one street further, it makes me feel proud that he chose me over her. When I first went to see my hubby's office my MIL said "dekha meray betay ke office main kitni khubsurat larkiyan hain" I smiled and thought but he still chose me.
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family? relatives? o bhai mairee tu apni begum yaad delatee rehtee hai who she was about to marry ! :khums: 
..and I keep telling her k woh khushnaseeb tha k tumharee uss sai shadi nahi hoie 
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Don’t worry about what others say. I know it’s really annoying, but if the relationship between you and your husband if of love and trust, these things don’t matter. Me and my husband often tease each other about our college crushes 