I agree whole heartedly. If at last minute someone shows at my place I will call the host and let them know that we cannot come, because , and then we will let them know that we have company. If they would accept the excuse and would not invite the extra person with us then we do not go. If I have guests at my home and I am invited I would let the inviter that we have so and so at our home , therefore we will not be able to come , if our guest are also invited then we will take them along and go . Never in my life, ever, anybody told us not to bring our guests, we were telling them about, though. These are our desi traditions and customs that somebody's guest is our guest too.
At my place I welcome anybody who shows up uninvited with anybody else and I make sure that they feel comfortable and welcomed once they are at my place.
Spot on with this one liner Mirch ..
I can never understand the hosts who are rude enough to drive away anyone invited or uninvited from their place ....
I think there is a more courteous way of letting the people know who turn up uninvited , one can let them know after the party how you felt... so it wont get repeated again..
To recieve courtesy one has to give some too ....