Re: Partner-to-be borrowing money?
I'd be kind of embarrassed asking for money from someone. Even if its family. But that's just me. I guess the only thing you can do now is just tell him how you feel. Nothing wrong with that. I hope it wasn't a huge amount?
I am going to tell him if he asks again.. otherwise if i bring it up out of nowhere it will cause further issues?
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Bahoot khoob...Applause!!
Lol if he wants to get rid then he should have done that time ago :/
Re: Partner-to-be borrowing money?
Iffy situation.
If he truely needs the money, 1 - he should have asked your parents, unless it was your own money, then there isn't any fault in helping him out, considering you're "partners-to-be". but I would let someone in my family know, before hand, of what's going on. 2 - wanting to help someone is human nature, just be careful and don't let it become a habit. 3 - assuming the worst won't help. I'm sure he was in need of help other wise he wouldnt have asked for it. Think about it, when you both are married, if he's ever in a financial bind, wouldnt you want to help him? 4 - as far as they amount, that's up to you. If you feel you can help him with out putting your self in a bind, go for it. If you feel a certain amount "might" be too much, think twice before making a decision.
Things happen.
As long as he pays you back and, like Queer said, has a plan so he wont be needing to borrow again, or as often, help your bf out. But still, I would def let at least my parents know.
Your probably right.. it was solely my money.. I would rather he borrows off me than my family, dont know why... he does have a pln to pay back but just to get it off my chest, next time if he asks im gonna have a serious conversation with him.
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Well funny. Ya know him better than most of the people here. All i would say is..if it is small amount and ya think he'll pay back..that is ok. But if it is big amount..then i wouldn't suggest ya let this man borrow your. Personally..as a man i tell ya i can die of hunger but can't ask money from my spouse or even girlfriend. And yo.. this asking money from spouse to be. Some fellas get in this bad habit of asking for money. So be aware of that. Ya don't want to be like this woman here in GS who sent nearly $10,000 to her spouse..which ended up in bitter divorce. So keep everything in account. And remember, your money is ya're money. He should be earning his money instead of asking..even he had to get some odd job.
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dont let him borrow again.
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Well it depends on what nature of strong bond you are into. I don’t think so its harm to help him if he really needs it. After all he has also lost his job. If he is responsible enough to return it back on time then there is nothing bad about it.
A friend is need is friend in deed.
If you love him truly and trust him then don’t worry about this matter. But I personally don’t like money matters over any relationship which isn’t firm yet.
Partner-to-be borrowing money?
Thanks alot guys.. Every comment has made me think out of the box.. I have made my mind up.. Just a matter of taking action. Thank you all once again!