How are you all?
I just wanted to ask a question.What will you do if you find out or come to know that your partner flirts with people of opposite sex online?Will you be okay with it,knowing that your partner is sincere with you?Will you take any action or leave it just like that?
hmm it depends. like one time i was joking around with my cousin about something that happened when we were kids, and his wife thought it something else. of course he explained her the incident only.
so first of all, give him the benefit of doubt.
second, can you post some parts of the convo (non-identifying)...it's easier to read the tone and see if he really is.
if he is, then find out why he is doing this. bad relationship? old habits? boredom? u can't have a solution if you don't know the cause.
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Autumn, which man is not a flirt? And actually sadly lots of ladies are flirts too, married or unmarried or soon going to be married. Its a favorite game and time pass of this generation.
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Everyone flirts but that doesnt make it okay. He shouldnt be and maybe you need to subtly flirt in front of him to show him what he is doing OR sit down and have a direct talk with him. I would do the latter and if it doesnt work...you turn on your charms too.
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well it all depends on the nature of the man. my cousins husband is flirtatious and chatty by nature, so him talking to me or other females is normal..wife is not concerned..
however my fiance is different..hes very quiet and soft spoken and very reserved. he doesnt talk to anyone whom hes not comfortble with por doesnt know. he particularly cant talk to females, even some cusins he gets bit shy and has head on floor half the time, so anyway hos nature is every different, so if i caught him chatting or flirting, id knock his teeth in, for me that would be a big change in character and means hes up to something.
however for my cusins hubby, hes loyal to her too, but his nature is diff....
so tell us his nature..
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Since he tells me as soon as some flirting starts, i can careless. But he never goes out of his way to flirt with any girl, but when a girl does it to him, then it gets funny.
This is embarrassing for me, public humiliation I must say.. you guys could’ve just PM niksik and ask her that question. Did you have to start an online thread:mad:
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My hubby is very conservative, whereas i’m more outlandish… so there is more of a chance of me flirting with others than him!
I remember one time, when we were in Spain… we were in a restaurant, and i could see this lady at the bar checking my hubby out…whilst i was sat there! He’s very conservative and doesn’t like the whole flirting game… so anyway i told him to go over to her to see what happens… he obviously refused… anyway about 10 minutes later she came over… spanish women have guts! I told her i was his sister… she believed me and this ensued with her being pretty salacious in her comments towards him… i was in fits of laughter…just watching him trying to be polite to her whilst she was practically salivating all over him…
So i don’t think i’m in any danger of my husband becoming engrossed in the flirting game… unless it’s someone with their chest cavity open on his operating table…oh and he tells me about all the nurses that have propositioned him… makes for an interesting conversation when i see them at work parties… 
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Not everyone flirts and no it is not ok. My fiance has done it in the past (lighthearted flirting) which I guess didn't mean anything, but I see it as a form of disrespect to me. If your partner respects you they would never flirt with another person. I've made it very clear I won't tolerate that type of behaviour...and the boy has learned his lesson...lol.
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^good job. that's how it should be
Most people Flirt but not everybody....And its wrong to flirt when you are committed (married, engaged) to someone. If a guy flirted in the past thats ok... But he shouldnt flirt when you are in his life.
Ask him to put himself in your shoes then how would he feel like? What if you are flirting an opposite sex and he knows about it. He can demand you not to conduct such behaviour then You have all the rights to demand him to stop this nonsense.
Being possesive to such level should be considered positive and is the sign of love. And I think its hard for women to accept the vision of some other woman with their partners. So dont tolerate. If he/she cant understand how u feel bad about this.. then ... u know.....Teach him/ her a lesson
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I find it confusing. Most of us here admit it's wrong and don't want it happening to us but are unwilling to avoid situations / conditions that are conducive for this act.
Wouldn't it be easier if we swung to one side fully?