Would you let your teenagers party, it seems like a blast and sort of develops connections, bonds and social skills. I feel that many desi boys and girls seem depressed and unhappy and also shy, lacking confidence, introverted and withdrawn. We need to develop social skills and leader ship qualities. I am father of teenaged boys who want to have fun but Mrs. Ali is not thrilled with the idea. She sat upstairs with a dundda while teenagers were creating ruckus in the basement. I have amazing memories of my party years and life gets monotonous and a drudgery later on s I think it is important to let e young ones have fun.
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Everything should be in moderation. Nothing against kids having fun, but I believe that they should earn the fun, rather than deserving it. Create a reward system for your boys. Good grades, achievement, excellence and such ... And they can have fun of their choice.
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Isnt it the biggest challenge of desi parents in west? One of my uncle says the only way out to explain these delicate matters to your kids is be the best friend of them. Atleast they should be able to control themselves when of if they go out to party. Otherwise one of them may end up to be a doc but then smacking a uber driver
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Everything should be in moderation. Nothing against kids having fun, but I believe that they should earn the fun, rather than deserving it. Create a reward system for your boys. Good grades, achievement, excellence and such ... And they can have fun of their choice.
yeah that is my motto, work hard and play hard and it seems that they earned their party but mamma bear doesn't seem to be on the same page and just keeps pushing work and studies. I feel you get burnt out, by all work and no play. She gets really upset when girls show up.
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Isnt it the biggest challenge of desi parents in west? One of my uncle says the only way out to explain these delicate matters to your kids is be the best friend of them. Atleast they should be able to control themselves when of if they go out to party. Otherwise one of them may end up to be a doc but then smacking a uber driver
You are a smart man, I deal with people and yeah you see scores of socially awkward young desis who don't know how to behave properly with people, one of my client was a good looking desi lawyer girl a DA or something and was so condescending and obnoxious, very similar to the Uber girl. Either they are too introverted or too obnoxious, you don't seem to find happy grounded outgoing people.
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You are a smart man, I deal with people and yeah you see scores of socially awkward young desis who don't know how to behave properly with people, one of my client was a good looking desi lawyer girl a DA or something and was so condescending and obnoxious, very similar to the Uber girl. Either they are too introverted or too obnoxious, you don't seem to find happy grounded outgoing people.
Partying isn't the best or the only way to learn social skills. I doubt people learn much from being around inebriated kids at these parties your boys want to go to. Getting a job where you have to interact with a lot of people everyday is, in my opinion, a better way to learn those skills.
I do kinda agree with your point on life turning into drudgery if you never cut loose.
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Life is too short.... For parties.
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Partying isn't the best or the only way to learn social skills. I doubt people learn much from being around inebriated kids at these parties your boys want to go to. Getting a job where you have to interact with a lot of people everyday is, in my opinion, a better way to learn those skills.
I do kinda agree with your point on life turning into drudgery if you never cut loose.
When you are out there trying to compete for the girls attention you kind of try to polish your skills of charm and persuasion and does motivate you to better yourself. Also if I am overall supervising them, can mentor and guide them thru risky situations like they cant make out with a drunk person, how to drink responsibly, how to dodge peer pressure, liabilities and stuff. I was talking to my boy and he shared with me that he needs to be happy also as he works so hard. If you don't let them be teenagers you get that 30 yr old doctor acting like a teenager.