What kind of relationship do/did you have with your parents? Would you like to tell a little about your parents? I mean … were they too busy, did they ever have some ‘nanny’ or anyone else to take care of you when you were a child? Were you ignored? Were your parents over-protective? They are perfect parents? Anything you want to tell us.. as long as it’s connected with your parents/upbringing? Has your relationship changed with time?
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Strict and over-protective but it turned out to be a good thing!! I totally appreciate them for doing that now that i think about it.
Nanny…i wish…i was the nanny until i got married:halo:
And, now that we are all grown up they have mellowed down so much. The father that ammi use to frighten us of is the most sweetest daddy on this planet:blush:
May Allah Jee bless my parents and every parent with a long and healthy life! Ameen!!
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weird. :D
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I had a pretty stable environment at my home when i was growing up. My parents were both strict and friendly. Both of my parents used to work when I came in this world but then my mom left her job (she was a fashion designer for Calvin Klein in NY) to raise us. My dad was a lawyer and was pretty busy, and have never ever neglected me. I couldn’t have asked for any other parents to be blessed with. I m too lucky to have um. My mom is prolly the strict one out of the two, her stictness has played a big role in my upbringing. My dad is the friendly one, I can talk to him about anything. I remember when my mum went to Pak for almost 3 yrs as my mamoo was diagnosed with cancer, I was a freshman in HS and one day when my dad came to my school to pick me up, saw some teens smooching, my dad got a little worried and gave me a huge lecture on SEX, it was a bit uncomfy coming from my dad. Anyway my point is even though my mum wasn’t here, he took time out for me out of his busy schedule to help me become what I m today. Yea my relationship has grown a lot in the last few years.
and yea my parents are a bit too over protective.
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i love my parents to death....they made me the person i am today...i wudnt change a single thing about them!....i appreciate everythin they did/do for me....my relationship with them changes with time...sometimes abu and i debate like two politicians....sometimes someone crack a joke and we all start laffin like 5 year olds...sometimes ami n i have nok jhok like sas bahu...n sometimes i feel like im the parent and they are my babies....lol....i call them 'mere bachey'....i thank God that he blessed me with such wonderful and beautiful parents....they are my family my friends my everything....i dont take them for granted....n i can do anythin n everythin to make em smile....mere chote se pyare se ami abu :)
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i really had a very frank relationship with my parents always .
they gave me alot ... .
i think my best relationships are with my parents :)
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Only six people here have parents? Don't want to share?
Sara and dutch_paki, care to elaborate? :)
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Same here!! I’m not scared of my dad.. just scared of disappointing him 
Although I am vrey frank with ammi, I’m afraid of her , of disappointing her, her gaaliyan, etc
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Been the oldest one at home!
Always had alot of responsibilities and billions things to do as well. I never honestly did anything bad that my parents had to put restrcitions on.
I was one heck of extremely sharati larki 
- i use to get slaps here and there for sure. Even from my chachas well lets say after blowing up his motorcycle i had to deal with somethign dont you think?]
Over the years became much more closer to ami ji - i was basically allowed to do anything as long as it was within limits. I never wanted to cross them or hurt my parents so never bothered - hanging out with wrong people.
ami is my best friend. abu ji and i share a very odd relationship- we have arguments but at the same time if i like a guy i can go up to abu ji and we can have a conversation on it.
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Nothing is perfect in this world but if anyone can come close to perfection, it has o be my folks.:)
I'm the eldest child (lol, not a child anymore) ....Ammi was quite strict when i was younger....but that was the part of disciplining, i guess. Abbu never even raised his voice....he let ammi do all the 'police work' :D
I had somewhat negative feelings ards ammi when i was under 10....afterwards we gradually improved n she n I have been best friends:). For Abbu, theres always been respect...he was n is very busy man ....we hardly had a chance to see him daily in our school years ...n even now when i'm there, we hardly get a time to have some chat etc. but now we are more frank with eachother n talk to each other on phone sometimes.
Abbu n ammi both have their own place.....he did everything to provide us necessities n luxuries...n ammi did all she could, to discipline and to mould us into responsible individuals. May Allah bless my parents n make me a living charity for them...amen!
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Thank you ladies for long and short replies.
So we have three women who are the eldest child of their parents. Does being eldest make you bossy in any way?
mm, do you think your relationship with your mother would've been affected if she had not left her job? Aren't the kids of working mothers generally more confident/successful? Or is it the other way round? Doesn't matter?
nia, what do you mean by 'getting slaps'? You feel bad about being smacked now? You were a child, no matter how shararti..
I hope I'm not being too inquisitive.
Pari Si, I'm going to have to borrow your parents for a few days. I promise to return them. Then you can debate like politicians for ever.
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Eldest can be bossy but not all are!:)
I was a bit bossy in earlier years....now not at all! And when I look at my kids ....my eldest is not bossy even one bit, mashaAllah (the youngest is!!):)
As for being confident and all...I would say, Every individual is a product of nature and nurture...heredity n environment that is. So you can not just apply one rule to all. I have 2 families in mind....with working mothers n all....kids in both families are my cousin n both are different. One lacks confident n the other one is really confident. Then Me n my siublings ....I'm not very confident n am a shy type of person...same is the case with my 2 sisters ....while 2 other sisters are mashaAllah very very confident./.....n our mother doesn't work. :)
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offcourse it would have been affected, i would have been a spolied brat for tht i know. If both of my parents were working, i m sure i wouldn't be paying attention to any of their house rules. I would probably be gone all the time from the house in their absence. Though i do feel bad, how she had to sacrifice her career becoz of me. I dont think working mother has anything to do with more successful children.
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Turbulent.
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i was the never the eldest but always treated like the eldest.
my parents made me responsible for most of the things.
yup you become confident and bold being treated as the eldest but even then u have to be very careful as u are responsible for everything.
a working mother is much better i guess in many ways .
but then children also need time . sometimes a lot of it
as napoleaon said . give me a learned mother i will give you a learned nation
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exobrent:D (they way urs is )
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sinusoidal
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hiccup and ahmadjee, I'm not gonna ask why.
thanks everyone else.