How would you feel if your spouse always prioritizes his parents’ happiness over yours? If your spouse always takes decisions which make parents happy, while ignoring your wishes and requests?
Betrayed. If a spouse can't keep a balance between their partner and parents, then he or she has no business being married. Unfortunately, this trait is far too common amongst desi millennials these days, thanks to being spoon-fed well into their young-adult life.
Injustice is always wrong. But parents should be "grown up" themselves to realize that their son or daughter are married. My husband and I from the day 1 and have made mention to people around us that we are each other's priority. Yes, ppl didn't like it but heck with them. And that doesn't mean at all we disrespect and ignore people around us. I.e, in-laws. We do appreciate and take care of them other ways.
The concept of unconditional love is foreign to some, they dont mind destroying the lives of their own children to feed their greed and ego. I would rather kill myself than impose on anyone.
Let me guess that the OP is a jealous bahu… 
**The best of people is
the one who humbles himself
the more his or her rank increases.
Prophet Muhammad PBUH...**
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As always, Sind bhai with his infinite wisdom! I wish more people on this forum were like you… 
A little ability to bend can go a long way.
A man has responsibilities towards his parents, spouse, children and siblings.
A man should not keep anyone happy at the expense of other in return parents, spouses, children and siblings should not be unreasonable in their demands.
Reading your posts disappoints every. single. time. Take it as a compliment, thanks.
Considering their age, which I'm assuming ought to be half of yours if not more. Perhaps just wait until one of them dies? Help it to be a happy end or not for them, is a choice you can make
Your spouse seems to be someone that self sacrifices for his parents and considers you as a part of himself, allowing both his and your preferences to take the back seat. Not saying it's the right thing to do, because he should be balancing things better. Communicate this to him gently and avoid being critical of him, pushing him away or ruining your relationship over this. Nothing lasts forever. Have sabr. It'll pass.
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A little ability to bend can go a long way.
A man has responsibilities towards his parents, spouse, children and siblings.
A man should not keep anyone happy at the expense of other in return parents, spouses, children and siblings should not be unreasonable in their demands.
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^ Pretty much this
God forbid I get kicked out by my kids for I couldn’t help my, or even her parents during their end years when I clearly had the means to
I know this is sarcastic but it is sad realizing that family values are going down the drain. People are waiting for elders to die off, instead of learning a thing or two from them.
^ Two way street in the grand scheme of things really
Being a bit self centered initially under the excitement of being newly weds isn't an issue really. Shadeed kisum ka downright be-hiss hou jana is
Irony is one would get such questions thrown at them by women/men finding ways to get rid of their in laws only, and never their own parents
What is considered shadeed be-hissi, in your opinion?
Ditching parents who had you born and raised you to be the imbecile that you have chosen to become
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It's not always the parents who are over-possessive.
I have seen young women who are simply not interested in any relationship with their in-laws and would go out of their way to find fault with them.
Just want to keep to themselves and their husbands
Good points!