We have two kinds of relationships once we get married , our parents and siblings and our in laws , MIL , FIL , BIL , SIL etc Why do we have lot of tolerance for parents or siblings and not for in laws ? When parents or siblings criticize we listen to it and keep quite even if we do not agree. We do not feel as bad about it. Why on the other hand a little criticism by in laws is not tolerated at all ? It is true for any culture not limited to desi culture. Also it is the other way around too, parents and siblings ignore so much when it comes to their sons and daughters or siblings but in laws do not let it go when something is wrong. Why ?
I have to disagree with the above...personally I always tell my family how I feel when I'm criticized about something. If I dont agree with what they said...I let them know and will argue about it. If I am upset or angry about something....you better believe the person who made me feel that way will know about it. I'm also pretty stubborn when it comes to my family. If I dont want to do something their way.....I wont!
However, I am not like this with others (ie friends, extended family etc). In fact I really dont see myself doing this with my in-laws at all. If anything...I think I'll be more patient and tolerant of them because I know that family is family no matter what. They will always love you in the end. They will get over the fueds and arguments but your in-laws on the other hand may not.
Mirch, when I read girls on here complaining about their in-laws...they seem tolerant and patient to me. Online they are complaining but it's not like they (most of them) have confronted their in-law about any issues. So isnt that being tolerant?