Re: Parents or on your own?
Sadiyah, I personally know only one real life example where a couple married without parent’s approval and lived life on their own. The husband died in an accident many years later and the girl returned to her family who didn’t greeted her with open arms but with time they are all cool. They didn’t have any kids and as far as she is concerned they had a good life together.
You know, these situations are so specific and human/culture/family reaction often so diverse that it is hard to generalize. It will be hard for anyone to live apart from their family and parents if they choose to live in the same city because you have to have a social circle regardless of what country/culture you live in. But if someone is in pardase and he or she marries without parents consent, they can probably be ok because ‘out of sight is out of mind.’ It also depends on what one expects a marriage life to be and does extended family has any part in it or not and how attached you are to your family/parents.