Re: Parents or on your own?
It's all about compromise... parents should let their kids make their own decisions, while kids should try to look for partners their parents would approve of - it's about striking a balance and having a good understanding. In this day and age there's no room for traditionally time warped, controlling parents or rebellious selfish kids.
I know of one guy who recently got married to a non-Paki girl, and his parents being extremely traditional, still chose to support their son's choice, which I think is for the betterment of everyone.