the fight takes place.
how so miserably sad is this behavior of the parents?
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Dushawari,
I didn't understand what you're saying. Why exactly have the parents fought. Can you please clarify?
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^ I agree and was about to type same thing.
Dushi, can you elaborate more?
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i mean that parents assume that the new couple has fought, or is going to fight and that freame of mind, as well as the words that they speak out, actually lead the young couple to end up becoming fightful.
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Ahhhhh…
Hehe i remember when I first got married, if i was in a bad mood, ammi kept asking me if it was coz of him 
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hi Sara516,
did it get you to be in a bad mood and lead to a fight? how did you resolve that situation?
share if you like.
best,
Dushwari
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No, i was mad over something else, and it didn't lead to a fight.
I"m pretty straightforward, if i'm mad at something/someone else, ill vent abt that, but never take my anger out on someone over something totally unrelated
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^ excellent. that is what a good man and woman should do, before and after they get married. and each must not be displacing his/her anger on the unrelated target.
all the best in married life. :>
Dushwari
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Never happened to me-
Even if ZUlfi and I are fighting( or having a HEATED argument) infront of my mom, she won't say a word in favor of or against anybody
If totally exasperated I would look at her and say" mama aap kuch nahin kahein gi?" she would say aaj khana bohot acha bana tha!
and if Zulfi would say to my mom " mama aap bhi to kuch kahien"- mama would say " mera betey nay to khana bhi nahin khaya - kheer nanao apni jaan kay liyeye"
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nope! never happened to us... there's always curiosity though from close family - i've been asked so many times what we fight about or if we fight, etc. and duh! we're human beings, so yes, we have our little spats, but those are entirely our business. and if anyone asks, thats what i reply with.
but no, thank goodness we don't fight just because people assume we're fighting and mad at each other.
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this is exactly what good and kind, wise parent in laws of both sides should do, to alleviate an argument between the young couple.
thanks for sharing.
best,
Dushwari
Never happened to me- Even if ZUlfi and I are fighting( or having a HEATED argument) infront of my mom, she won't say a word in favor of or against anybody If totally exasperated I would look at her and say" mama aap kuch nahin kahein gi?" she would say aaj khana bohot acha bana tha! and if Zulfi would say to my mom " mama aap bhi to kuch kahien"- mama would say " mera betey nay to khana bhi nahin khaya - kheer nanao apni jaan kay liyeye"
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Jeez, get some color in your life woman.
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thanks for sharing your perspective, orpheus.
best,
Dushwari