some manners and discipline them. My niece came over to stay for a week and she came in my
room. She wants everything from my room and she was jealous that i have a beautiful room. Next time she comes over
i’m just going to have to kick her out of my room.
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How old is she?
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what sort of a relationship do you have with your niece?
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She's 8 yrs. old
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An 8 year old is jealous of her aunt’s beautiful room. Mind-boggling! 
Anyway,what you have to do is set boundaries with her.Tell her what she can and cannot do when it comes to you.
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Khala/Mamoon/chacha/phupho/dada/dadi/nana/nani are part of a comfort zone for a kid. Kids will speak their mind in front of them...unless you want to keep them at an arms length...in whcih case, you wouldnt have much of a relationship with them....and would probably be complaining about how your niece doesnt talk to you etc.
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Khala/Mamoon/chacha/phupho/dada/dadi/nana/nani are part of a comfort zone for a kid. Kids will speak their mind in front of them...unless you want to keep them at an arms length...in whcih case, you wouldnt have much of a relationship with them....and would probably be complaining about how your niece doesnt talk to you etc.
We do have a serious problem where children are really misbehaved, many eastern parents lack in parenting skills and don't know how to set a system of consistent system of rewarding good behavior and punishing bad. I just had two really ill behaved south Indian kids in my showroom yesterday.
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We do have a serious problem where children are really misbehaved, many eastern parents lack in parenting skills and don't know how to set a system of consistent system of rewarding good behavior and punishing bad. I just had two really ill behaved south Indian kids in my showroom yesterday.
She is her niece. The way she speaks of her niece tells more about her immaturity rather than the nieces'. Misbehaved children exist in all communities. Don't just target the Eastern community.
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Cant imagine how bad aunt/niece relation is that the aunt cant tell her niece to behave if/when she is being disrespectful (incase she really was) or misbehaving. Aunts naturally have that much right over nieces especially 8yos.
You sound like a 7yo to me.
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A well behaved child is well behaved with everyone. There is nothing wrong with an aunt expecting good behavior from her niece . I have seen two year olds who are well behaved . Recently I had to request 4 parents to control their children for safety. Why would I need to tell educated people that
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Nothing wrong with an aunt "teaching" her niece good manners incase she spots bad behaviour. Especially an aunt who shows signs of mental maturity. The original post seems to be written from a 7 yo mindset. What kind of aunt would notice an 8yo niece getting 'jealous' with her 'beautiful bedroom' & have thoughts of "kicking her out" instead of teaching her manners??? I have not seen such an 'aunt' in my life & strongly hope I never have to.
A well behaved child is well behaved with everyone. There is nothing wrong with an aunt expecting good behavior from her niece . I have seen two year olds who are well behaved . Recently I had to request 4 parents to control their children for safety. Why would I need to tell educated people that
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Nothing wrong with an aunt "teaching" her niece good manners incase she spots bad behaviour. Especially an aunt who shows signs of mental maturity. The original post seems to be written from a 7 yo mindset. What kind of aunt would notice an 8yo niece getting 'jealous' with her 'beautiful bedroom' & have thoughts of "kicking her out" instead of teaching her manners??? I have not seen such an 'aunt' in my life & strongly hope I never have to.
That's what I thought as well. The OP seems to be quite immature herself.
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We do have a serious problem where children are really misbehaved, many eastern parents lack in parenting skills and don't know how to set a system of consistent system of rewarding good behavior and punishing bad. I just had two really ill behaved south Indian kids in my showroom yesterday.
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She wants everything from my room and she was jealous that i have a beautiful room.
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This is all I read in the OP regarding the 8 year old's behavior. I still fail to see 'misbehavior' in that. What this statement shows is a plain old normal kid with kidly desires.
I think the line between good behavior and bad behavior has been moved too far towards good behavior....where even mundane stuff is classified as 'bad'
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She is her niece. The way she speaks of her niece tells more about her immaturity rather than the nieces'. Misbehaved children exist in all communities. Don't just target the Eastern community.
My parents are Eastern and we were taught to greet the hosts, to not touch the host's things without their permission, to not run wildly through their home or to jump on their furniture, nor to impose ourselves in any way. For each dawat, I remember my mom laying down the rules before we even left our home ...and my mom never had to give a lambi chori explanation because her stern tone and glance were more than enough.
Apart from my own parents, I have seen other "Eastern" laug set boundaries and rules for their children and nieces/nephews. As an educator, I have found the "Eastern students" consistently well-mannered.
So, thank you ...LP...for bringing up the important point that one should not tar a group of people with the same brush...also known as "stereotyping" ...and such a mindset does jot reflect "maturity" either.
Anyway, I have taught 3rd grade enough times...students that are 8-9 years old. And people who are not educators tend only to come across a few 8-9 year olds either only in their own immediate/extended family or maybe their social circle. But as a teacher ...I have taught close to 50...8-year-olds in one school term before....and lemme tell you...kids that age can be a handful and MashaAllah se I have good classroom management. And you'd be surprised at how just ONE rambunctious 8-year old can be like the equivalent of 5 kids in ONE body.....that's how challenging and disruptive to the entire class just **one to two kids **can be. I have been shocked by the the things that I have heard from a few 8-year-olds...shocked by the "maturity" of their attitude....in that a few of them know too much for their age and act like teenagers in tiny bodies.
Sometimes even parents.....(including non-Eastern parents) can.....in a** tongue-and-cheek way*....(slightly joking/exaggerated way*) remark that they feel like giving their kid away on ebay....or will throw them out of the house....but they don't mean it literally.
There are many details that we don't know about the OP's niece; there could be more to the story....before we rush to "castigate" her as a bad aunt. My best friend has a younger brother who throws tantrums and has kicked her ....and us a manipulative menace....because boundaries were mot set for him. Same best friend has a nephew who is spoiled and listens to no authority because his parents did not set boundaries....he will not listen to any gentle or firm disciplining from any aunt/uncle/nana/nani/teacher/nobody.....because all he has to do is scream and create a scene and mom will be by his side to give him exactly what he wants and she won't take kindly to any person scolding/preventing her child in any way. So yeah....folks...there ARE cases of difficult nieces and nephews; they DO exist. Let OP come and clarify things before assuming the worst about her.
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If one always has the worst opinion/ghumaan/expectations of a certain "group" of people (Eastern or otherwise)....then they will only see the worst in that group...and they bad will outnumber the good in their mind. As they say, people will see what they want to see. If you happen to be a member of that group, then open your mind to positive examples from that group...and try to look for the good in the group.
And I highly doubt OP will rear back and charge toward niece and kick her like a soccer ball out of the room. Not everything should be taken literally; people often exaggerate.
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Jeez, she is 8yo. Grow up. 
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Moreso the problem is empathy, empathy is learnt by observing parents mostly. If you see a greedy selfish child then you know where that behavior is coming from. Every parent should read this article I am attaching. I know a couple of sociopaths amongst my relatives and the cause is lack of empathy. Mostly the empathy is developed at an early age.
https://www.scholastic.com/teachers/articles/teaching-content/ages-stages-empathy/
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Good grief. Search some articles on the harmful effects of stereotyping as well.
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Plot twist: tweetybird is the 8 years old niece.
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We do have a serious problem where children are really misbehaved, many eastern parents lack in parenting skills and don't know how to set a system of consistent system of rewarding good behavior and punishing bad. I just had two really ill behaved south Indian kids in my showroom yesterday.
We only have one serious problem and that is in your head. Unfortunately it's too late now to fix it.
Desi moonh walaiti cheekhan.