There comes a time in life of a person when children become everything in his life. Remeber once, a friend of my dad was telling him that if someone can assure mme that he will take care of all emotional, spirtual, economic needs of my kids and in return he wants to shoot me, i’ll happily offer myself to him.
But then, when children become the sole purpose of life, how can parents adjust when kids grow up, start their own families and have their own life. I guess thats why its Desi parents have so many issues with their DILs. I wondered how i will feel about my DILs. But then i remembered another story.
An old man was planting an olive tree, someone asked why are u planting a mango tree, it will take 10-15 years b4 it will harbor fruit and u’ll be dead by then. He said, my father planted a tree and i ate its fruit, now i’ll plant a tree and my kids will eat its fruit.
I always saw my parents took more care of me&my brothers than their own parents and i take more care of my kids than that of mom&dad. And my kids will inturn take more care of their own kids than me. … The cycle will continue. I dunno at that time will i feel disappointed or will i understand.
If your children grow up to take better care of THEIR children than they take of you, then you can pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself on a job well done. You have raised an independent and caring person who nourishes their own and can live their life comfortably without relying on the dependance of having you around.
Its sad and its hard to let go. It breaks my heart each time I have to let my boys grow a bit more but there's also the enormous pride and sense of accomplishment.
I think I will despise anyone my boys marry unless of course I've chosen her and she damn well better live up to - or surpass - people like Princess Diana lol!! But seriously, I truly want nothing more than happiness for my boys - if they want to be a nuclear physicist thats great but if it is their desire to be a construction worker and thats what would make them happy then thats fine too.
You will be sad that thoe days are gone.. just yesterday they were born and nwo they have children of their own. But at the same time, you'll be happy that they have hte sense of responsibility to take of their children teh way you took care of them. It shows you did your job and you did it will, you showed them by example how children should be raised.
My dad says that the realtionship between dada-potra is unlike any other, that a potra will be just like his dada. I don't know how true that is.
Its also hard for children to let go of their parents, or at least it is as much for me. I do not want to ever see my parents grow older - or change, nor do I want them to "let go" of me.