when you are in the heat of an argument and parents get really annoyed, what do you do?
i would personally, walk away respectfully and let them cool down and then discuss what ever the issue is.
what are you going to do?
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I try to keep away from arguments with parents.
I think the key point that helps me lessen my arguments is when I realize (and I fully understand) that parents have more experience, have seen more life than me. When they tell me something it is usually a well weighted advice. What they have learned over a period of lifetime, I cannot learn in a matter of days.....unless I reach their age.....
I have admitted this with my parents. And this has helped me come to a nice relationship with my parents. Especially, after getting kicks in my life, I have realized how much protected I was when I was with my parents. This made me realize how much they saved me by taking hardships and troubles on themselves. I remember when I used to get angry with my parents, they quitely listened to all my stupid talks. Parents endure a lot.... and I regret why did I do that with them. They never replied me back with the same harsh manners.......
Particularly my mother. Somehow, I have realized how much prents love their kids and they don't want their kids to be in any trouble. We most of the times misunderstand them......
Thats all what has made me loosen up and understand my parents more, and their side of the arguments more..... Now I don't get into arguments with them anymore.....
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I ALWAYS ALWAYS stay silent and not argue back for some time. I let myself and them cool off and then discuss the matter later (in calm manner). And btw, even if parents are wrong, you (meaning us muslims) are not suppose to behave badly in front of them. Allah says in the Quran (Surah 17, if I am not wrong) that "...Do not even say UFF to them...". Allah knows what He has revealed. Therefore, we humans have no other option/choice but to follow Allah commandments whether we like it or not. Allah says in another Ayah of the Quran that "You may like a thing which is Bad for you and you may dislike a thing which may be good for you". So liking and not liking is not the criteria here.
:)
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no arguments with parents
if they do not agree on somthin i do it no matter what...
and when they are too stressed and speak insane, i go away and let them realise life is short and they should not be so much stressed about petty things...
or the psychologists tell them later, lol...
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I know what i should do but thats not what i tend to do...The makeup of my family tend to make things harder so i rarely deal with things in the correct manner...
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Mothers have jannat under their feet. I kiss janah every opportunity I get :).(Infact, a few hours ago when we were eating shammi kabab, a bread crumb fell on my mom's feet, I picked it up and ate it. She said "Demagh karaab hogaya hai tumhara? I didn't listen; I felt happy inside :) ).
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no point arguing with parents, it will just ruin your relationship
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i've learned that when my parents are angry with me or we're arguing, its just better to let them say what they want, and then calmy explain to them what i want, if it feel like i'm going to start yelling i try really hard to just let the issue go for a bit, atleast until i calm down. I think arguments get resolved much faster when people try not to yell, and re respectful of eachother, and that goes for any relationship.
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i agree.
we cannot return them a bit even, of what they did for us.
to raise us.
dant is for our own good.
being a bit daring is fine, as long as we are not malicious and inviting trouble.
standing for our own arguments is alright, as long as we remember that we need to disagree with them, with respect :>
& they do have always the best of us, in their hearts and on their minds.
may they always live on content, happy and joyful for our triumphs and be there for getting us back on our feet, as we stumble from time to time, in the journey of this life.
thanks,
dushwari
I think the key point that helps me lessen my arguments is when I realize (and I fully understand) that parents have more experience, have seen more life than me. When they tell me something it is usually a well weighted advice. What they have learned over a period of lifetime, I cannot learn in a matter of days.....unless I reach their age.....
I have admitted this with my parents. And this has helped me come to a nice relationship with my parents. Especially, after getting kicks in my life, I have realized how much protected I was when I was with my parents. This made me realize how much they saved me by taking hardships and troubles on themselves. I remember when I used to get angry with my parents, they quitely listened to all my stupid talks. Parents endure a lot.... and I regret why did I do that with them. They never replied me back with the same harsh manners.......
Particularly my mother. Somehow, I have realized how much prents love their kids and they don't want their kids to be in any trouble. We most of the times misunderstand them......
Thats all what has made me loosen up and understand my parents more, and their side of the arguments more..... Now I don't get into arguments with them anymore.....
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argument with parents 
… No way. IF they are upset about something i did/said. I will let them walkover me the way they want.