Re: Parents and Islam
Sister, since you are very close to your friend, and thus to the happenings in the family, which are horrendous, astaghfiruAllah rabbi min zalik, astaghfiruAllah!!! you could indeed help, Allah will bless you, if not directly then indirectly in many ways..
If the father has become a Mullah, or has accepted the path of the beautiful faith of Islam, does that mean he has asked forgiveness of all his past crimes, and has repented to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and asked forgiveness from his children and wife and begin to love them once more?
If that is the case, then the mother and the daughters have the option of forgiving him, and accepting what Allah gave them in the past as a test, which they must pass, and then moving on. Remember, this is a great test of sabar, and a mighty test of forgiveness. RasulAllah HabibAllah sallallaho 'alaihi wa aalihi wa salam was the most forgiving human being on earth. People stoned him, threw every kind of insult on him, abused him in every way they could, but he was forgiving, and forgave them because he knew they did not know what they were doing. But ophcourse, he did protect himself, and fought the wrong, but did not wish death to the enemy, but wished them to come to the right path. Islam is all about Jihad un Nafs, the Mighty Big Jihad.
RasulAllah salalaho 'alaihi wa aalihi wa salam says
there is a Hadith in tirmidhi that RasulAllah sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam said that 'it is an enormous sin [kabayir] that a person curses or swears [yashtum] at his own parents.' his companions were surprised and said, 'ya RasulAllah, does anyone swear at his own parents?' he replied: 'a man swears at another's father and he swears back [at his own father]; a man swears at another's mother and he swears back [at his own mother]' [thus when you swear at another's parents and he swear back at yours, it is as if you swear at your own parents] [tirmidhi 1824]
So, no matter what your parents do, behave in the best way to them, upholding the truth and shunning all evil or revenge that might come out of you. Everything comes from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and He is the Most Merciful and Kind and Just.
The daughters, must protect their mother from all harm and must stop the father from every evil that he intends to do. It is essential to fight evil and the person doing it. Because Islam is not about keeping quiet and letting evil happen right before your eyes. Today is the 28th of RamaDan for me, and these last 10 nights of RamaDan are the most important to us in this blessed month. So a prayer of Istikhara to Allah and du'a to Allah in the nights and in your Tahajjuds is very essential, so that Allah guides you through the difficult happening in your life. This is what you should tell the blessed mother and daughter.
There are people who do not even have a father, at least this family still has a father, who if possible can be corrected. Otherwise, one answer, separation or police.
Thaqib
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