What’s the best way to deal with mothers + fathers who say they’ll die of a broken heart, stop eating, not take care of their diabetes etc if they don’t get their way?
I’ve heard of it happening when their kids won’t marry who’ve they’ve chosen, or picked someone they don’t approve of.. If your parent suddenly starts behaving like this what do you do?
(This isn’t about me btw 
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Re: Parents and emotional blackmail
My mom kinda did that to me. I told her its not about her and she should stop acting up for no reason and I told her I love her the same. She was upset with me for a while, tried playing on my emotions as I am the only son. As harsh as it may sound, I didn't pay much attention to her or try to be extra nice or anything. Few days later she was normal.
idk if it was the best way and I regret I made her sad but it was something that had to be done. Part of growing up I guess.
Re: Parents and emotional blackmail
Zindagi and maut are ultimately in Allah's hands. That's my stance in the event of emotional blackmail. There are people who go thru the worst of traumatic situations and come out alive...so like I said earlier, life and death are controlled by Allah. However, this does not exempt one from the responsibility of trying their best not to stress their parents out and from having consideration for their health issues and their age. And our bodies have a right upon us; we are responsible for taking our medication and if we deliberately don't..then it's not the fault of the other person. If anything, the parent will be answerable to Allah for deliberate self-harm as well as forcing their child to do something against their will that Allah has allotted the child freedom/rights for. That's a form of oppression and a hadith states that Allah has forbidden oppression for Himself and forbidden it for His servants. Parents are more likely to let go of their stubbornness if we speak to them with patience and that is easier said than done..it requires a lot of self-control when your buttons are being pushed...but I think it's less messier in the long run.
Re: Parents and emotional blackmail
tell them to call sharack khan coz he has a very fine role for them in boollyvud.
Re: Parents and emotional blackmail
Depends on what the situation is but I find emotional blackmail very childish - it doesn't matter what the reason for it is, but simply not being able to control someone's life and then reacting this way is very wrong.
If I felt strongly about my decision after hearing my parents cons, I would stay adamant in my decision BUT respectful to my parents. I know a lot of young adults/teens get angry, create unnecessary drama which only adds to their parents behaviour, so I think the most appropriate thing to do would be to not act out or say things in anger and let time take its course. Most parents (considering their child's decision is sensible and sane to begin with) will come around when they see how determined their son/daughter is about the decision.
Re: Parents and emotional blackmail
What if they really do stop eating or taking their meds?
Re: Parents and emotional blackmail
depends what they are asking. as far as the marriage thing is concerned, tell them that he would not get married if they insist on marrying someone of their choosing. tell them politely why you wouldn't wanna marry.
you play a little game of emotions back to them but be polite.
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What if they really do stop eating or taking their meds?
What if they chori chupay eat their food and take their meds when you're not around? Sneakay sneaaakaaay!!!
Tell them suicide is haraam. Or to match their dramatics, cry out "Aatma hathyaa paap hai, maaa!!!"
But more seriously...what a sad state of affairs. :(
Re: Parents and emotional blackmail
Time for tough love. Tell them what your exact stance is and stay firm. Nobody should be allowed to throw tantrums to get away with making bad decisions for you. If they don’t want to be treated like a small child not eating their food then they shouldn’t act like it.
But honestly even my parents acknowledge I’m emotionally dead so they know better then to try something like this. #ImEvil](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=ImEvil)