Re: Parents, Aging and Sudden Illness
I lived with my parents in Pakistan till they both were alive. I have no regrets about not taking care of them. You can never repay for what they do for you. I remember all the sacrifices my father and mother did for my brothers and sisters. They were great parents. Allah give them high places in Jannat , Ameen.
My father and then my mother died in my hands. Father died of heart failure and mother died of heart attack.
I was with them and for them till they breathed their last breath. I moved to US after they both were gone.
I have firm belief that it is their Duas which have saved me from very big troubles and problems of my life.
Oh Mirch - im so sorry to hear that. May Allah Mia forgive all their sins and grant them a place in Jannat.
Re: Parents, Aging and Sudden Illness
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Its easier said than done. Many people who brag a lot will shy out when the time actually comes.
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Yes Iconoclast this is true, words are always easier than actions. If you notice in the Quran, Allah SWT again and again reminds the children to be kind to their parents and show mercy to them. He does not tell the parents -this is something that comes naturally to a parent. But He reminds the children, because we forget and neglect. May we all always treat our parents in the best of ways, Ameen
Allah give them high places in Jannat , Ameen.
Ameen, and the same for all our parents
I have firm belief that it is their Duas which have saved me from very big troubles and problems of my life.
I really really believe this too, my parents duas have helped me more than I can even imagine. I dont think I would be anything today if it wasnt for their prayers, and of course the mercy and blessings of Allah SWT
Re: Parents, Aging and Sudden Illness
Yes Iconoclast this is true, words are always easier than actions. If you notice in the Quran, Allah SWT again and again reminds the children to be kind to their parents and show mercy to them. He does not tell the parents -this is something that comes naturally to a parent. But He reminds the children, because we forget and neglect. May we all always treat our parents in the best of ways, Ameen
Doing grocery for your parents, giving them time, company, money, listening to them are all important but i say that all these are easy part.
What i really call "taking care" is to carry them around when they cannot walk, to wash their feces and urine when they cannot do, to clean their mucus, to spoon feed them to bathe them.
Thats when it tells how much you can do for your parents.
I really realized this when i saw my grandfather this visit who needed everything care like a newborn child does. And despite the fact that he had 4 sons and tens of grandsons, it was only 3 people who actually "did" the real job.
I wish Allah saves me from being a burden on anyone.
Re: Parents, Aging and Sudden Illness
I agree with all here who say that it is us kids who need to take care of our parents...and typically from what I have observed... its expected that bahu will come and clean and cook.... i think taking care is something different than that.... and I was reading this the other day.... if children who are living abroad can't be there physically to help the parents they can at least make sure the parents are well provided for financially.... not all kids are equal and their circumstances might be different.... its my job to take care of my parents.... and its my husband's job to care for his parents.... as his wife i need to be supportive of him when he is kind to his parents.... and the same goes for him.... I do understand that girls move in with their husbands...but they can be supportive in many other forms...... may Allah give us the much needed patience to take care of our parents and not say uff to them...aameen.... the best dua that we all can read is the second half of Ayat 24 in Surah Bani Issrael...Allah himself has given us this duaa and tells us to say, O Allah have mercy on them as they showed care and mercy to me in my childhood....I didn't copy the exact translation so pls forgive me on that end.... typed it from memory....