Re: Parents, Aging and Sudden Illness
as a boy, its your duty to be with them no matter where they are living...if you think you can earn more going abroad or wateva still you must stay here because nothing matters more than your parents and their saath with you. .
maham I agree with most of what you said in your original post except the above.
no where does it say that it is the sons duty to care for his parents.....this is just cultural.
Islamically however it is the duty (their obligation) of both son and daughter to care for their parents not only when they are aging but all the time.....whether they are married, living abroad, single, studying etc etc doesnt matter.
Why is it that we think it is solely the sons responsibilty? I never understood that and never will.
When my father passed away he left me and my (retired) mother alone Although I am still in uni and not making any money....I still do everything I can to care for her (ie do the grocery, cook, pay bills, etc).
To be honest, the main reason I didnt get married as of yet is because I refuse to leave my mom alone (although she is way too independent for her own good) and I wont get married until I know for sure that the person I marry will accept both me and HER because we are a complete package. :D
Point being....as a woman if you truly want to care for your parents you will do so without making any excuses and you will find a way to accomodate them into your life no matter where you are, who you are married to and how many brothers you have.
Unfortunately in our culture I see way too many women throwing their parents at their brothers feet and backing out from the responsibilty themselves....quite frankly... I am fed up with seeing that.