Do you feel you have the right to parent or to give advice your sibling’s children directly.
If they were doing something “wrong” or felt that they needed to be told about “appropriate behavior”. Would you feel comfortable to approach your nephew or niece directly and correct their behavior.
Or would you talk to your brother or sister FIRST and let them handle the situation.
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i think it depends on how is ur relation with your siblings, like in my case i know if my nephews r doing anything wrong i can tell them directly, n same my bhabi n bro can do wth my baby, but honestly i dont have any kids in inlaws but i know i have to be very careful, i think i will tell my huby to tell their parents but me myself a big NO.
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My nephews are still little and they are perfect kids.. never do anything majorly wrong. My sister has done a good job with them.
My sister tells me when she feels like I'm doing something wrong as a parent when it comes to my daughter. I never mind, we're very close and I trust her.
But yes, I have scolded her kids from time to time if they don't behave. She never minds.
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i think it depends on how is ur relation with your siblings, like in my case i know if my nephews r doing anything wrong i can tell them directly, n same my bhabi n bro can do wth my baby, but honestly i dont have any kids in inlaws but i know i have to be very careful, i think i will tell my huby to tell their parents but me myself a big NO.
I once did the mistake of "daanting" a kid on my husbands side of the family. Her mother got so pissed at me for telling her daughter to calm down when she was jumping all around screaming into my childs ear.
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I once did the mistake of "daanting" a kid on my husbands side of the family. Her mother got so pissed at me for telling her daughter to calm down when she was jumping all around screaming into my childs ear.
yes i know you share different relation with in laws so its always better to be careful thts y i said a big NO
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bad idea.......unless you are directly related to the mother.
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I was told many times by my khalas, phophos, mamus what to do what not to do. But I guess the time have changed that not only will the child reject someone else parenting but also the parents don't want anyone else telling their kids what to do or not to do.
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You know my take on it - I’m the aunt, let me enjoy them cuddle them and bite them and totally spoil them. Mom and Dad can worry about thier behavior 
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My sister gets mad at me if i don't tell her toddler off for misbehaving. she thinks I'm a wuss . sigh...
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My sister and I have a very close relationship and have, one the years, learned to communicate with each other respecting each other's space. So there have been instances where her son has pulled my daughter's cheeks rather tightly but before I needed to say something, she takes care of it and treats my daughter with so much love and care that I've not had to do anything. The same way, when my kid has been in the wrong, I take the initiative to sort things out.
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the place i come from, in rural India, anyone had the right to discipline anyone's child...once my ears were pulled [kaan kheeNchnaa, gosh-maalii karnaa] by this old man who lived in the village but i didn't even know him just because i was throwing dust near him...he did NOT warn me either...later, he brought all the way to my dad who agreed with him for disciplining me...my Dad later hugged me and said, never do that again...
...since parents can be everywhere so i think older people have the right to tell the younger ones what's acceptable behavior and what's NOT...but do NOT mete out corporal punishments for that. :) i know i believe in hierarchy!
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if their parents are not around then i approach the kid directly but later definitely let the parents know 'this is what your kid was doing and this is how I have handled him/her'...... *but if the parents are around then i would let the parents deal the kids first
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ofcourse it depends on what was the kids inappropriate behavior at that moment but *generally I wouldn't like someone scolding (in the name of discipling or whatever) my kids in my absence .....and if they do, I need to know WHY and HOW they have approached the matter???
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I put them in time outs, quiet time, etc if they're misbehaving if I need to.
I am not their parent but I love them very much.
My sisters know that so I haven't had any situations where they minded me scolding them or talking to them if they did anything wrong.
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so far only the mother’s relatives have said that they can discipline kids 
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Aap har jagah beejamalo bankay kyun tapak parte ho?
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whts to beejamalo.......i had a theory.........it was proved .