Hubby and I both agreed before we even had our first child that they would always be the first and foremost priority. I;ve never used a babysitter, never used daycare, I retired from my job and never looked back. NOT that this is a critisizm of working moms - far from it. I just know myself well and know that I can either be a great corporate citixen or a (hopefully) great mom - I dont have it in me to do both.
ANYhoo…
So my boyz are now 8, 7 and 5. Youngest starts kindergarten on Sept 8. Hubby has a business trip to London in early October and if I buy my own plane ticket, all other expenses would be covered. I cant bring myself to go. Hubby agrees with me as far as I can tell although we BOTH would enjoy some alone-time. But that can come when boyz are a little older methinks.
^As Sahar said who is gonna take care of kids?If its your mum or some relative your or hubz brother or sister or mother in law etc. then you can think about going.Sometimes u need a free time. In my personal opinion I cannot let take care of my children to a babysitter for 4 or 5 days if its a day trip then its fine.And about friends its too much for them to take care of kids.But if you have relatives why not sure go and have some fun.
My parents went for Hajj, leaving my brother and me with some very nice relatives. We were only 3-4. I think you have good, trustworthy people to look after the boys, people with whom the boys are comfortable, it's okay. But I would also talk to them about their responsibilities while you're gone.
We never leave the kids with anyone. Either we go together, or i go alone, and couple of time wifey has gone with the youngest while i took leave and stayed with the older two.
It would be my sister taking care of them. My mom might be here too but it would be too much for her alone. But I still dont think I'm going. I'd worry, I'd miss them and we've never left them with anyone. Hubby has gone away, I have gone away in the past but never both of us at once. I think it would be too much to go for a week....maybe next time.
oh gosh, I would be so hesitant just like you MO3.
We were planning to go on Hajj, not this year, perhaps next year inshaAllah, the girls will be 7.5 and 4.5 by then and I do have relatives who would be happy to take care of them while we are away, but hubby and I were talking about it and we both can't seem to be able to do that just yet... he said he wouldn't be able to concentrate, and neither would I...
So, go with your heart because you can never force yourself to have fun.
how about testing some away time before committing to a whole week?
that way, you'll have a better idea of how your sister, the boys, and you and your hubby cope.
maybe an extended sleepover is in order? 3 days, perhaps?
you never know, the boys might have such a blast that they look forward to the next sleepover, and you can go and have fun with hubby knowing they are also happy and having fun.
I think if you have someone reliable to watch them, esp your sister and kids are fine with her, you should go. Kids are our life and we do everything for them, BUT you also need some hubby & you time, just to relax & rejuvenate. I like SGC's suggestion. By the time kids get older, you may not have the energy to do the things you can do now....I say go for it!!!
how about testing some away time before committing to a whole week?
that way, you'll have a better idea of how your sister, the boys, and you and your hubby cope.
maybe an extended sleepover is in order? 3 days, perhaps?
you never know, the boys might have such a blast that they look forward to the next sleepover, and you can go and have fun with hubby knowing they are also happy and having fun.
I think if you have someone reliable to watch them, esp your sister and kids are fine with her, you should go. Kids are our life and we do everything for them, BUT you also need some hubby & you time, just to relax & rejuvenate. I like SGC's suggestion. By the time kids get older, you may not have the energy to do the things you can do now....I say go for it!!!
