ok my little guys are age 6, 5 and 3. I always get complemented on how nicely they behave when we’re out - restaurants, school, etc etc. And they DO behave like perfect gentlemen when we’re out. At home though, mealtimes are usually a disaster. They put feet up on the table, occasionally throw food and just dont listen. I can’t eat a meal with them cause I’d just get indigestion. Why would they be so perfect out in public but so naughty at home? We do not beleive in hitting them, of course they get the occasional butt-smack but we use naughty corner and removal of priveleges or toys mostly. Any helpful advice here?
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awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
just let them beeee and thank god that theybehave in public.. believe me . i have seen worse'
well my two boys 9 and 10 also always listened when they were younger .. i believe that too much training messes up their real selves..
just let them beeee
too cute
when do we see their pics???
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I'd love to read what people say. I have a little baby boy, that'll get older n older before I know...
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My older daughter almost 5 years and younger daughter is 17 month.s They aer perfect ladies when we go out. Little one does not even do a choon and sits quitely in her mother's lap all the time, while the older one is on a roll of impressing people around her with her excuse me please and thank you please.
At home its a 180 degree turn. Wife runing after them, me running after wife ... Hehehe.. you know
I think that kids do take their parents for granted sometime. But I belive in some kind of disciplining, hitting is not the only option. You can send them to their room, ask them to leave the table or as my wife threatens, ask my daughter to find a new mother because she is fed up and going back to her parents (well that proposal makes me happy:D, but makes my daughter's so sad that she suddenly start listening)
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This is very common Mamaof3.
It just means that you have not set boundaries at home, if you do, they will not cross the line.
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No kids yet, but I guess you should be thankful that they behave in public! I've seen worse and I feel sympathy/contempt for the mums :(
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Mamaof3...if they behave well in public....you should count your blessings. :)
Children shouldnt feel like they are in prison 24/7.......they have to let it all out somewhere. The fact that they do it at home just means they are comfortable within their surroundings. Of course there should be limits to how much they misbehave at home. Besides you wouldnt want it the other way around (ie acting out in public and being good at home) now would you?
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you know what i know couple of siblings, 7 and 4 year olds. and when adults are around, they are perfect gentlemen. always listen to their mum and their dad and their grandparents. their tone of voice isn't always patronizing that is that they do speak with authority when it's time to eat or something. but you should see them when they are alone or with other kids. a couple of wild ones! especially as they are growing, the things they are saying now. not just actions. so i think it's just a boy thing to do =/
now how to tell a 2 year old girl that she's hurting you :(
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awww, they must be so precious.
my nehpew is.
i am sure sons and daughters between the ages of 3-5 look like little people who have full personalities filled with countless innocent acts, mimicing conversations and smiling icecream covered dimples.
kids can teach so much about the emotions.
if you are a mom, i have no experience, so cant help there, but can say this much that responsible and stressfree motherhood . but i love kids.
i guess, play with them, teach them care, love and sharing. let them express their emotions, and facilitate their play ground behaviors to make them able of socializing with their peers in a sensitive manner.
kids love adults who are loving and happy, most if not all the time.
kids also like material things, but not more than their favorite foods or drinks.
definitely, they like to play in water and in out doors. seasons and leaves can be best activities with kids.
youngs kids can be asked for help around the house in cleaning or taking care of a pet.
kids love to be asked for help. it gives them a sense of usefulness and helps bonding.
young boys look so cute when they play out and their interpersonal dynamics become evident.
normal growth and developmenal trajectory during childhood or boy hood (girl hood in case of girls' childhood) calls for comfort, security, stable and predictable level of love and discipline.
when given these, kids will grow up to be nice and caring.
best,
Dushwari
Dushwari
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I'd love to read what people say. I have a little baby boy, that'll get older n older before I know...
i never thought of my lil ones as someone too young and naive to understand a situation. therefore i never lied to them about anything .. this made them trust me and confide in me and they still do it..
its a blessing when kids come to you with problems..
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Thanks for the replies! I really AM very lucky that my boys are so well behaved and even really at home they're very good - except at mealtime. I thought about what you said Icon...and I think you're absolutely right. I had been just sitting with them and yelling at them when they misbehaved at the table - things just generally degenerate and I was dreading dinnertime like the plague every night. So I started using the naughty corner - ok, you didnt listen so get up and into the naughty corner. If any one of them got sent to naughty corner more than once then NO dessert. I think they will all start to behave much better at the table if I stick to this plan....thanks!