What do you say to a person that accuses your parents of being wrong for sending you to a co-ed school and letting you live in the US/UK in dorms.. and says "your mother did wrong by putting you infront of men"
What do you say to such people besides giving them a tight slap? Do I need to bring out my melon-baller? Once again this person needs more views.. girls answer him please.. I already have.
Yes, Gina.........bring out the melon-baller, girl! And make sure that the melon baller has scalloped edges ;)
One needs to consider various aspects of Islam. The Prophet SAWS said that education is mandatory for every male and female and that one should even go to China, if necessary, to seek education. Our religion places an emphasis on intention *as well. It is said that the angels sitting on our shoulders record only our actions but they don't record what is in our hearts because they don't have access to that info. Only Allah, alone, knows what is in our hearts. It all depends on one's intention.....is one going abroad to *"get away" from parents to become sexually promiscuous? Or is one going with the sincere intention to acquire an education?
Also, one has to consider family circumstances and financial situation. Maybe the family can't afford to send two people abroad. Maybe the family situation is such that parents can't travel and settle abroad with the child. People who make such rigid comments need to think about a situation from all angles. A girl's parents are not always going to be around to supervise her. She also needs to rely on her own common sense. As for the guy who made such a comment......perhaps he should be told to lock himself at home.....rather than expose himself to na-mehram females out on the streets, in the family, and in the workplace. If he goes around lecturing females to avoid na-mehrams at all costs......then he himself should seclude himself from na-mehram females as well. It's only fair.
Islam advises woman to dress modestly and maintain decency among the opposite gender, but we're not told to avoid them all together. Look at the women in Islamic History. They had so much wisdom and courage and displayed leadership skills as well. How could they accomplish this if they totally shut themselves away from the men in the community. They had to interact with men.......BUT........they did so in a decent manner.......and within their limits.
The Prophet SAWS advised us not t make religion an extreme because by doing so, it will become too hard for us to follow. Rather, he advised us to stay within the middle ground.
The person who made such a comment is very narrow-minded because he completely ignored the girl's intentions for education and her family's circumstances...........and decided to JUDGE her without considering these factors. This reflects a lack of thorough thinking on his part. Perhaps he truly is ultra-conservative.......or you never know.....he could be jealous that the girl got to go abroad for an education whereas he never got that opportunity.