What do you say to a person that accuses your parents of being wrong for sending you to a co-ed school and letting you live in the US/UK in dorms.. and says “your mother did wrong by putting you infront of men”
What do you say to such people besides giving them a tight slap? Do I need to bring out my melon-baller? Once again this person needs more views.. girls answer him please.. I already have.
What do you say to a person that accuses your parents of being wrong for sending you to a co-ed school and letting you live in the US/UK in dorms.. and says "your mother did wrong by putting you infront of men"
What do you say to such people besides giving them a tight slap? Do I need to bring out my melon-baller? Once again this person needs more views.. girls answer him please.. I already have.
**Y ur all frnds need "more views" ??
U can redirect him to All views .......
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He's not a friend.. my friends are pretty normal.. they don't need all this! Just asking what people would've done/said had they been in my shoes ;)
What do you say to a person that accuses your parents of being wrong for sending you to a co-ed school and letting you live in the US/UK in dorms.. and says "your mother did wrong by putting you infront of men"
What do you say to such people besides giving them a tight slap? Do I need to bring out my melon-baller? Once again this person needs more views.. girls answer him please.. I already have.
well gina! from Islamic perspective its wrong but it also benefits as well as have harmful affects also in society.
:)
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You just say that your parents did such a good job of raising you, and that they trust you so much that they know that even if they do put you 'infront of men' you're not gonna rip of your clothes and become a whore...or something along the lines of that :)
Co-ed is where the best education lies sometime, universities away from home may be better for you in relation to the course youre taking.
Just because theyre not comfortable with sending their kids away from home, because they dont trust them, doesnt mean everyones parents have the same worries. Each to their own, tell them to get over it.
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Tell Your Friend To Do the Obviously sensible Thing and Tell Them Thats None of Thier Business
If u need more views why dont you go to All-Views
Hahahaa
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this is what i would say:
"my parents must have done everything right because I turned out perfectly fine." :D
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I think THAT GUY is jealous. He was probably in ALL BOYZ school all his life! 
otherwise, there are NO guys in this world who would have problems with girls attending school WITH them!
i lived on my own during my college time for a bit. my sister is gonna start dorming next year. i live a pretty frivolous lifestyle and could care less what people like this think of girls living on their own or going in front of men without a hijab. 
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Hey I need more Views too.
My Thread is also serious.
What do you say to a person that accuses your parents of being wrong for sending you to a co-ed school and letting you live in the US/UK in dorms.. and says "your mother did wrong by putting you infront of men"
What do you say to such people besides giving them a tight slap? Do I need to bring out my melon-baller? Once again this person needs more views.. girls answer him please.. I already have.
Yes, Gina.........bring out the melon-baller, girl! And make sure that the melon baller has scalloped edges ;)
One needs to consider various aspects of Islam. The Prophet SAWS said that education is mandatory for every male and female and that one should even go to China, if necessary, to seek education. Our religion places an emphasis on intention *as well. It is said that the angels sitting on our shoulders record only our actions but they don't record what is in our hearts because they don't have access to that info. Only Allah, alone, knows what is in our hearts. It all depends on one's intention.....is one going abroad to *"get away" from parents to become sexually promiscuous? Or is one going with the sincere intention to acquire an education?
Also, one has to consider family circumstances and financial situation. Maybe the family can't afford to send two people abroad. Maybe the family situation is such that parents can't travel and settle abroad with the child. People who make such rigid comments need to think about a situation from all angles. A girl's parents are not always going to be around to supervise her. She also needs to rely on her own common sense. As for the guy who made such a comment......perhaps he should be told to lock himself at home.....rather than expose himself to na-mehram females out on the streets, in the family, and in the workplace. If he goes around lecturing females to avoid na-mehrams at all costs......then he himself should seclude himself from na-mehram females as well. It's only fair.
Islam advises woman to dress modestly and maintain decency among the opposite gender, but we're not told to avoid them all together. Look at the women in Islamic History. They had so much wisdom and courage and displayed leadership skills as well. How could they accomplish this if they totally shut themselves away from the men in the community. They had to interact with men.......BUT........they did so in a decent manner.......and within their limits.
The Prophet SAWS advised us not t make religion an extreme because by doing so, it will become too hard for us to follow. Rather, he advised us to stay within the middle ground.
The person who made such a comment is very narrow-minded because he completely ignored the girl's intentions for education and her family's circumstances...........and decided to JUDGE her without considering these factors. This reflects a lack of thorough thinking on his part. Perhaps he truly is ultra-conservative.......or you never know.....he could be jealous that the girl got to go abroad for an education whereas he never got that opportunity.
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Gina............I think a good response for this would be that a girl can also engage in haraam whilst living in Pakistan in a home with her immediate family AND her extended family to watch over her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! In other words, evil influences are everywhere.....and it all depends on one's intentions. Girls living at home with parents and seeking education in the nearest local all-girls university can also expose themselves to random men on the streets while they are "on their way to school" and get themselves in trouble.
^ Thank u for such a detailed and apt reply RV :)
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What!
This Thread was aboutr a Girl from Pak goin to a Western Dorm.
Damn-Rite i think thats wrong. Sending a Girl away like that for her teengage years is unright, the girls immature age while being exposed to inapprpariate behaviors and enviroments she would face is detrimental should i say if not catastropic to her.
Youngsters do go to West for further study, but which for University, is when they are MATURERER, and so more approriate.
However, if the basis of sending a young girl to a western dorm is for better education, i think thats is a pathetic ground!
Because if they are that wealthy they can afford equal if not better education in Pakistan!
Pakistan is not laggin behind any of the developed world in Education.
Saif-Ali-Khan Parents sent him to a U.K College Dorm. He got expelled after the first year.
Dirty Boy
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Tell him his parents did wrong because now he’s talking to a beautiful non-mehram woman . 
SU move to Dubai.. foran se pehlay!
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People act like orgys are taking place in dorms or something.
What!
This Thread was aboutr a Girl from Pak goin to a Western Dorm.
Damn-Rite i think thats wrong. Sending a Girl away like that for her teengage years is unright, the girls immature age while being exposed to inapprpariate behaviors and enviroments she would face is detrimental should i say if not catastropic to her.
Youngsters do go to West for further study, but which for University, is when they are MATURERER, and so more approriate.
However, if the basis of sending a young girl to a western dorm is for better education, i think thats is a pathetic ground!
Pakistan is not laggin behind any of the developed world in Education.
when you are right you are right!!!! Paki girls always have bull**** issues.
"why cant we dress like westerns " "why cant we do this that"
I mean give me a freakin break. I have seen you out of cloths trying to perform.
I mean in athletics you CANT spread your legs beyond 15 inches. Look more like elope then a sprint!!!!
Come one, Its like that mentality "why cant woman lead prayer."
here is a little advice for my smart women.
MEN do THINGS!!!! you women test the boundaries all your life.
"i have spoken to the guys---I have wore shorts on beach" I mean IS THAT AN ACHIEVEMENT ?????
I feel sorry for such women. Really!! honeys use your potential to DO things not to test/push boundaries.
Like one of my friends aunt's fav lines are "my father sent me to co-ed in MA so I dont fear man any more" I mean aunty do you need life time acheavement award for that. ARE MEN SUCH AMAZING THINGs???????? BEING AROUND THEM MAKE U SUPPERIOR THEN NORMAL WOMEN.
GET A F-en life. which CAN call a life not a resitence.
