Parental books for dad - desi dads

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Re: Parental books for dad - desi dads

@rabia3983

Hello all,

so i am having a hard time teaching my husband about basic rules to follow when disciplining our 5 year old. My husband expects a lot from him and thinks our son is the only one who is very stubborn, disobedient and hardheaded. I have tiredto tell him that he isn’t**. But hubby is st**uck on over disciplining him.
For an example: my husband was mopping up something (i was giving a bath to our 5 month old,) and my 5 year old asked if he can mop. As usual, my husband said no to him. My 5 year old ran to me and asked if he can mop. I said no, since Abu had already said no. This of course made my son very upset and he started to cry and got in trouble Later i asked my husband why he had said no him, all he wanted to do is mop. My husband’s response was, " we shouldn’t allow him everything he ask for." I told him this was harmless, and few days back i let him mop a small area. My husband refuses to see my point. He thinks we shouldn’t give him everything he ask for and I say that we pick our battles and give him things that aren’t harmful and only discipline on things like bad behavior or if he is aggressive with his baby brother etc.

I can’t seem to make my husband understand that our son is only 5 and is going through a lot at the time (kindergarten, having a younger sibling etc.)

So i want to find a good book that will help him understand and deal with this. Amazon had too many options.

Any recommendations?

I re-read the post as per your post you wrote the boy`s father thinks he is hard headed, stubborn and disobedient and you made it sound like you think that is acceptable behavior. First of all, if the father is saying no to everything and he is displaying behavioral problems than it is not possible to be happy. Parents should be involved in a lot of activities with the young one, he should be participating in chores and should be involved in activities like learning to swim, playing soccer, skating etc but he should be listening to parents and shouldn’t be allowed to get away with bad behavior.

No should always mean no, if you give in when he is hard-headed or stubborn then you are reinforcing that behavior.