Parental books for dad - desi dads

[rabia3983]

Re: Parental books for dad - desi dads

@Bobby1

Good on you for at least trying to educate yourself, I think both of you need education in raising children. First of all please don’t give mixed messages. Five-year-olds can be very well behaved. Humans only repeat behavior that is rewarded, I can bet anything that his stubbornness has been rewarded on a regular basis. I deal with the public and it is very well known in the industry that our children misbehave a lot.

So lesson no 1, no always means no. It doesn’t become a yes if he gets very stubborn or acts up.
If he does not listen, there has to be consequences and the consequences increase in intensity as behavior gets bad, never yell at a kid, take something away that he loves. Never give threats without following up.
Dont give mixed messages, husband says don’t mop, mom says mop away..Seriously!!

I would be delighted if my child asked to mop anyway.
Overdisciplining is horrible if the child is not happy at 5 he probably won’t be ever. We develop most of our brains pathways by 5. Let the child make brain pathways for happiness.

Be consistent, always reward good behavior and bad behavior has consequences. Biggest downfall of desi parenting is mixed messages. One day they punish a behavior, next day they reward the same behavior.

Thank you for your reply and suggestions. But i think you misunderstood my post and the reason for it. My son is not a misbehaved child. The problem i am experiencing is that my husband wants to restrict everything and I have been trying to convince him that we need to allow some freedom . I used the mopping incident as an example. In which i didn’t allow him to mop either…seriously!!! (please reread my post.)

I also never said my son is an unhappy kid. Where did you get that from? You statements is assuming too much information.

seems like you are an expert at this, so please suggest some reading material for my husband and I can learn as well.