What would you do if you found out one of your parents was having an affair? Would you confront them, take some other form of action, keep quiet or tell the other parent?
(I’m not going thru this myself before anyone asks.. I just read about a Pakistani guy here whose father has had a mistress on the side for 10 years)
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What would you do if you found out one of your parents was having an affair? Would you confront them, take some other form of action, keep quiet or tell the other parent?
(I'm not going thru this myself before anyone asks.. I just read about a Pakistani guy here whose father has had a mistress on the side for 10 years)
As generally asked, generally answered, If either of the parent is died, then it would certainly create no problem. He/she has every right to live his life.
If both are alive and one is being unfaithful, I think, I would talk to him/her privately. Discuss the consequences and warn with the cruel conclusions. I don't think I might be able to discuss it with the other parent. Its not only embarrassing but also the broken faith that two of them will have on each other for the rest of their lives.
I would never want my parent to avoid me for such a reason due to such an embarrassing situation.
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^It's different if one is deceased.. I don't think it's wrong to be with someone if that's the case.. I'd have no problem at all if either of my parents did that..
I mean if parents are married..
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First: Ask him/her if they're using protection. I wouldn't want my parent to catch a disease and then give it to the other parent.
Second: I have no frikin idea what I'd do next. My parents have been living apart for two decades now, so I can't really relate to this situation. They're not together, they can do whatever they want to do. Though I'd prefer they do it inside a marriage.
My cousin found out her dad was having an affair around 10 or so yrs ago now. It was one of many. We were 15/16 at the time. It was a devastating blow for her. She adored her dad and thought the world of him Her parents weren't in a happy marriage we all knew but to find out something like that is so tough in many ways. She caught him out with incriminating texts. Anyway she confronted him after thinking about it for a week or so but in that time her behaviour and attitude to him changed understandably and so confronted him in an argument. His words were along the lines of I don't give a crap and if you and your mum and other two (kids) don't like it you know where the door is. She was in pieces and though many things and ups and downs have gone on in their relationship since, I know he lost her from that day on.
You can't even do anything with such a shameless and uncaring attitude.
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Does she still talk to her dad? Is the family still together? Can you imagine something like that at 16...I could see how it would make someone so angry..
Yep they have a relationship. So much happened since though, running away to get married, making up with parents then later divorce, marrying again suddenly due to getting herself pregnant. We no longer speak personally but they def have a relationship, though how close now I couldn't say. There's too much history to figure what kick started it all but their parents never wanted to marry and it was never a happy marriage.
Oh another one- a separated aunt recently let on how she found out her 'husband' was having an affair again (it happened many times) one of the last was him leaving for work, he rang to say he would be late or some reason or another, she's busy with kids with phone on charge upstairs, later she has a voicemail from him and what she hears on that 2 min or however long voicemail is the scumbo talking things with the other woman which my aunt couldnt repeat but of course was undeniably incriminating.
Oh yeh and another uncle who was married and accepted with a woman he eloped with originally then was accepted in the fam by my grandparents. He had another woman he couldn't resist for years abd years. The wife put up with it til he left her and shacked up with the woman. The wife would actually together with the kids prank call the woman, her fam and workplace. Kids were around 12-14 then. He later got himself caught up in another dodgy deal, locked up and the wife went back to him and still together. Another I don't talk to so God only knows the dynamics of that. The kids think the world of their dad though.
Another's mixed race illegitimate child came to light in the younger lot of the fam (about 10 yrs ago). That was interesting. Introduced and accepted by wife and the half siblings. Still don't tell grandmother this one.
You honestly couldn't make it up. I thank God my parents are the sensible ones in the whole extended family. Most, if not all cousins in my fam always say how they look up at my Dad as the most decent man they know and love my Mum. Mashallah may they always remain happy together and blessed in their lives.
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Those stories are awful..
I know of a couple of older men who ended up taking second wives but those started off as affairs..
If it was one of my own parents I think I'd definitely confront them and prob say if they don't own up to it I'll tell the other parent myself.. I love my dad to bits but I couldn't let something like that carry on behind my mum's back..