Parent-child trust relationship

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yes, try to console your brother.

But is there any way you could possible talk to your Dad directly about this? Do it at a good time, explain yourself well and give sincere suggestions and notify your Dad... it may hurt your Dad inititally to hear what his 8 year old son thinks of him, but in the long run, it is best for everyone invovled.

If your Dad trusts you then Inshallah he will not take it the wrong way and see it as constructive advise rather then his daughter telling him what to do :)

I pray that things get resolved soon Inshallah :)

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We all spoke to him about this very recently, and so he just told us that janan isnt his main responsibility anymore, we all have to really help him. At first we were thinking of sending him to live with my sister, but he cried and had a fit about that, so my dad made plans for my phuppo to come stay with us starting in february. My dad just loses his temper and cant think of anything when he gets mad at him, and I think telling him that my brother talks bad about him is just gonna send him through the roof :bummer:

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Sorry but it sounds like your dads treatment of the poor boy is bordering on abuse. First he was almost sent away making him feel unloved and unwanted. Then allowed to stay but beaten for the slightest offense. Its no wonder that he isnt doing well in school, is terrified of his father and feels unloved.
Maybe things will get better for him once your phuppo comes. because your father is doing nothing but harm right now. Sounds like he could use an anger management session or two and some parenting classes.

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^ i have to agree with mama on this one.

i'd say you and your sisters need to be your brother's protector's in the meantime. make it a point to talk to your dad every time he loses his temper and takes it out on your brother-- and if need be, let him know you're not afraid to call in child services on his behalf... i'm sorry your father's going through tough times, but you're all his kids, regardless of when you were born, and just because your brother is the youngest, doesn't mean he's not your father's responsibility any longer-- theres no justification for being abusive.

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Yeah I know guys :bummer: Thaks a lot for your input, I was thinking we should all go to family therapy or counseling or whatever, and your advice has really made me see how damaging this behavior is. I was hoping we could resolve it on our own, but its been getting to be a bit much and all of us have no clue what to do about it.

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I missed the thread:(...oye Riya u free...me gonna call:D...pick it up Im going to call from home number..dont freak out..different number:D

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yes I am, do you mind if I call after 20 minutes I have to quickly get ready and go out for groceries :D

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Sure, give me a call when u r free or I will:D