Paranoid or Unnecessary Suspicious?

[diwana]

@Hulahoop_Queen

The call takes one second to make - “I am working late..” make some light convo..the end. How is that hard to do? Eventually, you will find that after some time she will begin to trust you and that trust will last forever. Like I said, trust needs to be earned and effort has to be made rather than just automatically assuming/expecting the other party to ‘trust’.

I mean, for example, my mom used to be quite strict during my teenage years. She did that for obvious reasons. I would make sure I let her know where I am, not hang around with people she did not want me to hang around, always come on time etc. Now in my twenties, she has solid trust in me and I can actually talk to her about a lot of things other girls can’t share with their mother. I don’t have to tell her where I am going or where I am etc etc because that trust is very solid at this point. People always tell me “your parents are so cool with you..so lenient”..they hardly realize that its years worth of effort.

Sure. No argument there.

What I said in my post is that if the spouse demand periodically the assurance which is not practical nor should be demanded. Plus, what I mentioned is thast be vigilant.

Okay,

You gave example of being teenage. Great.

Please explain how this even can be applied to spouses? Spouses are not same as teeenage and parent relationship in terms of what to tell other. Right?

I will agree that being vigilant and aware of the tell-tale signs may be similar in both kind of relations.

Let me explain. Just as you keep a loving relation and trust your teenage, you love and trust your spouse.

Does not mean you are being paranoid or have any expectations of bad deed from him/her or mistrust him/her unnecessarily.