Re: Pakistani Wedding Traditions
Salaam,
1.I have so many questions: Should me and my siblings get the guy a gift?
2.Am I really expected to take the guys shoe off at the wedding? What if he's wearing laced-on shoes? Do I sit there and untie them and expect him to not kick me in the face?
3.Am I supposed to put mehndi on the leaf and circle money around and around their heads?
4.Should I be on the stage at all times or is it alright if I wander around with my pals?
5.Do I have to say salaam to all the Aunties/Uncles? What if I don't even know who they are?
No set rule for a gift. If you guys are super-close to him then I can see sense in getting him a personal gift of sorts, but not necessary cuz your parents will cover that ground.
Yeah seems weird trying to take his shoes off but i'm sure he's aware of the tradition. If you feel awkward bending down and getting under the chair to take his shoes off, make a younger cousins do it! Get like ur 11 year old girl cousin to do it, dulha won't fight a young kid.
No set rule, but it's kinda fun. More for the picture sake than anything else.
You don't have to be around the stage at all times, but be around cuz someone will need you, like ur mum, sibs, aunties. There's always something to do.
Most important - your mum will be busy being a good host and greeting everyone. She might forget a few so hover around the entrance area, put on ur best smile, touch cheeks, kiss the air, and tell um to have a seat/appetizers/food. Your face/jaw will hurt at the end of the night, but you'll get such a good rep amongst the aunties. That can either be a good thing or a bad thing, but you don't want anyone to complain at the end that they weren't greeted by the family members.