**The thing in Pakistani Culture that still prevails to this day is..If a guy is widowed…he’ll be married(for the sake of kids…big ha! why can’t he just get a maid for them instead!) the very next day…but if the lady becomes the widow…Most of the time …She is supposed to live the rest of her life alone FOR THE SAKE OF THE KIDS…Why don’t we just SATTHI her then…since so much of the Hindu culture has rubbed off on us…Culturally…Not religiously, we as Pakistanis Hold her back…How VERY FAIR??? I have seen it so many times that it makes me think. Islamic ally widows are to be wed off as soon as possible, we have the live example of Hazrat Muhammad’s(pbuh) wives.
I know the times have changed…but still it is so looked down upon act in Pakistan…almost like committing a crime…I just wonder why?
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What's wrong sugar? You sound pretty pissed off about this topic, something going on?
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Satthi: is a brand of condoms sold in pakistan
Satti or Sati: is the tradition of bride-burning
dayum gurl u confused me!
by the way....i dont think its such a taboo these days for a widow to marry again. My aunt lost her husband in an accident and she married recently...her kids are ok with it and so is the rest of my family.
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Its one of the topics I have seen around...I remember this relative of ours who lost a husband....and I asked why doesnt she remarry...I guess its been more then12 yrs now...But the answer is "Aisey nahi kehte"...This time too...mostly I have seen or I maybe overreacting to it...But still is the notion...Its just Unfair...I have a friend whose sister died...2 months after , thhis brother-in-law married...(For the sake of kids...which were grown up)...its just the unfairness of it all
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Satthi: is a brand of condoms sold in pakistan
Satti or Sati: is the tradition of bride-burning
dayum gurl u confused me!
…Really i didnt realize about the brand…
But I did think that after posting it…looked like saathi rather then satti…I tried to edit it…but couldnt edit the title…
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because most of the time she is usually asked (or rather forced) to leave her kids from previous husband behind in order to get married again. .... i suppose poor woman rather choose by herself to stay with her kid/s
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It's just another one of those double standards that exist in our culture where for the most part women are treated unfairly.
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Amber11 i have never seen or heard of whatever youre taking about. My nani remarried after my nana passed away... and this happened 50 years ago in sindh when you'd expect things to be more backwardish.
Usually nobody has any problems with widows remarrying. I'm not sure what kinda people you've been running into.
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I thought this topic was about the Quality Control issues with Pakistani contraceptive brand Saathi. Darn! It isn't.
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I think men marry for sexual reasons..and poor women are seen as rotten women as there is a double standard in our society..!
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Pakistani SATTHI......khoda Pahaar nikla chooha lol
For a second, i thought you are talking about Pakistani condoms, it's just my dirty mind i guess :|
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^ you guessed right!
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hmm...it is actually the opposite in our family. Women who are widowed don't want to get married even though everyone wants them to remarry.
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becuz thy r usually expected to remain that way....for the sake of the kids...In society anyway!!!...But on th other hand if the woman says no herself...thats her choice...
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No its not true the thing is that pakistani women themselves think that way - they decide to raise their kids on their own without any help - my phupi was on the verge of getting divorced and she is very educated and good looking as well Mashallah but she decied to go back to her husband because she was worried about what others will think, its just that the women have this thing to care about others more then themselves but there are women i know who have gotten married after either their husbands have died or they have gotted divorced - its only the uneducated and lower class people who restrict their women and everywhere be it Pakistan or India uneducated people behave in such manner but yes in India most educated people as well are against a women getting married after their husbands death
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Is she content with her life...Do u know the inside of it...or just the what everyone says? are the kids better livng in an unhappy home...well thats a different discussion...I m talking about the general mindset of people in Pakistan that still think that the lady should be sacrificing for the sake of the kids as the new father wont be able to love em enough or whatever...But I m talking about the general population....I hope it changes