Pakistani newly-wed doctors flee for their lives

Newly-wed doctors flee for their lives

http://www.gulf-daily-news.com/Story.asp?Article=86599&Sn=WORL&IssueID=27114

ISLAMABAD: Pakistani doctors Amnat and Ghulam Mustafa are on the run, in fear of their lives, for falling in love and getting married.Hundreds of women fall victim to so-called “honour killing” by male relatives every year in deeply conservative, rural Pakistan for marrying without their families’ consent, thereby being deemed to have brought disgrace on their family.

Amnat fears she would meet that same fate if she returned to her home in Sindh province in the south of the country.

“My brothers have threatened to kill me and my husband,” 44-year-old Amnat said.

“There is no guarantee for my life if I go home,” the visibly shaken woman said as her husband, Ghulam Mustafa, looked on.

“The main condition of my brothers is that I should get a divorce from my husband if I want to go home but I will never do that.”

The couple’s predicament highlights a major dilemma faced by Pakistan in reconciling centuries-old tribal traditions with modern-day values as President Pervez Musharraf tries to project the country as a moderate, progressive Muslim nation.

More than 4,000 people, the majority of them women, have been killed in the name of honour across Pakistan since 1998, according to government officials.

Amnat and Ghulam have been on the run since they married in August 2002 and have recently come to Islamabad to seek government help.

“We have come here to ask the government to do something for us because we are now physically, mentally and financially exhausted,” the bespectacled Mustafa said.

The doctors’ marriage enraged Amnat’s relatives in their conservative home town of Moro where almost every marriage is arranged.

Mustafa said his wife’s family had been harassing his family ever since. They kidnapped and tortured two of his women relatives for more than two weeks and attacked and wounded his nephew to avenge the marriage, he said.

“At least 35 of my relatives have left Moro in fear of their lives,” he said.

Musharraf has in recent months become more forceful in urging the government to take stringent steps to curb crimes against women.

In May, he called for the drafting of specific laws against honour killings, saying that although they were already illegal, specific laws would strengthen efforts to end the “intolerable practice”.

He also called for a review of controversial Islamic laws which rights activists say are discriminatory against women.

But human rights groups say crime against women goes on despite the president’s calls.

“There is no change in the trend,” said Kamila Hyat, a spokeswoman for the private Human Rights Commission of Pakistan.

“The government has been saying for long that it is doing something. But nothing actually has happened on the ground,” she said.

Rights activists say few of those responsible for honour killings are brought to justice, with police often reluctant to intervene in a “family matter”.

Those who are arrested are often freed after families reach settlements, usually brokered by tribal elders.

In Amnat’s home province of Sindh, where such murders are known as Karo Kari (black man, black woman), rights groups say 398 people, including 243 women, were victims of honour killings in 2002.

Mustafa said he did not want the government to provide protection just to them.

“We want them to lay hands on influential people and feudals who incite such crimes. There are many Amnats who are facing similar tragedies,” he said.

You beat me to it. I was gonna open a thread on this.

Did anybody see this couple on the latest episode of Capital Talk on Geo???

A lot of details are left out of this article.

First of all, the female doctor here was the breadwinner for her family. She is a gynecologist and had her own private practice in an area where there was no female doctor for over 20 or 50 km. So, she made a lot of money cause women from all over would come to be treated by her. That money went into the pocket of her brothers. She has, I think, 2 brothers. The eldest one is a Minister and has a position of power.

Her whole life, she wanted to get married and her brothers wouldn’t let her. Her mother, when she was alive, would beg the brothers to get her married. They still refused. Eventually they relented and the mother got her daughter married in, I think it was 2003. The mother then passed away.

Somewhere along the line, one or both of the brothers became unemployed so they desperately wanted her money.

After the mother passed away, the brothers and the village elders had a jirga where they decided the woman has to get a divorce. She refused and then death warrants were issued on the husband and wife.

Now, they are living on the run and are ‘underground’. The interview I saw was held in Karachi.

They had human right activits as well as the couple as guests on Capital Talk. They also had an MMA member there. I’m pretty sure it was the MMA. Anyway, the human right’s man said he would do everything in his power to help them out while the MMA guy said this issue was a “family affair”, and therefore should be resolved amongst themselves. Talk about turning a blind eye. :rolleyes:

I felt bad for this woman. Her brothers messed up her life because of their greed and got the jirga to back them up.

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Yeah, Imran you beat me to it as well. Mehnaz, you beat me to it as well. I was gonna say to Imrtan, "you beat me to it", first. :(

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